月份: 2018 年 10 月

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女人發癲時，如何安全渡過？[男女感情]

女人發癲時，如何安全過渡？[男女感情]

Last time we talked about why women can be “crazy”, today let’s talk about what to do when she’s in that emotional state.

 

#1 Accept her behavior first

The first thing you must train yourself doing (I know it’s hard) is to STOP JUDGING HER negatively.

 

Because if you judge her with your default logical linear mind, say that she is such a fvcked up girl, OR she is crazy,

 

OR she has sth wrong with her, you have already failed a woman’s shittest.

 

Just like we said last time, if you can first approve & STAY with her when she’s emotional,

 

you are NOT TRUSTWORTHY enough in the bedroom for her to also 100% let go during orgasm.

 

So let go of “what she should do as a rational human being”, observe this emotional storm with your MASCULINE PRESENCE.

 

#2 Stay grounded like a rock in YOUR OWN REALITY/frame.

 

Feminine women are like the ocean, their emotions are always ups & downs like waves and always based on moment-to-moment reality.

 

But a masculine man is more like a rock – solid, grounded, calm, centered.

 

So when a woman becomes emotional, it’s YOUR JOB as a man to STAY GROUNDED in your reality.

 

STOP fighting her emotions or trying to solve her problems with your logic, what she needs is YOU FEELING WHAT SHE FEEL!

 

It’s a challenge to your MASCULINITY to see if you can maintain your rock solid reality you want to live in, so can you do that?

 

#3 Ground her Back To Reality

 

Once she has expressed her emotions like a storm, you can bring her back to the TRUTH of reality by saying sth like,

 

“Yes honey, I can feel that you feel XYZ about this. It is [feel] that XXX. I actually have a few observations/thoughts about this situation, are you ready to listen to that?”

 

This way you are not just showing your love & approval of her, but you’re standing on your masculine ground to offer your perspective.

 

Even if she doesn’t agree with you, she still respect you because you’re not a doormat who is too afraid to express your own thoughts.

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點解女人可以咁痴線？[男女感情]

點解女人可以咁痴線？[男女感情]

 

Well, what I am about to tell you is quite controversial, and that is also one of the biggest fear of men.

 

Maybe you’ve experienced these moments with your GF, or during a date, or a girl you’re attracted to.

 

That is, when she starts to “act crazy”, you as a man think “Why the F did she do that? That doesn’t make sense! That is irrationally! I don’t get it!”

 

#1 But what I want to tell you is that often when you say this to yourself,

 

it’s NOT that women are crazy, but it’s HER way of showing HER EMOTIONS, which is by definition NOT about logic/rationality.

 

Why is it good that a girl shows you her CRAZY side?

 

It’s because she is giving you a shit test, an opportunity to see if you are a man who can handle her in her FULLNESS.

 

#2 Understand: No girl will shit test you if she isn’t interested in being intimate with!

 

If she is always polite, composed, elegant, rational, logical like a motherfvcking judge or government voice, guess what?

 

There’s NO fvcking passion/sexual tension/arousal/excitment that exists between a man and a woman!

 

So if a girl shows you her emotions, at least she is comfortable enough with you to see if you can handle her emotionally and sexually.

 

#3 Why sexually? Because when a woman let go SEXUALLY and really feel the pleasure, she HAS to trust you that you can handle her in the bed and you’re not scared away by her real raw animalistic desires during orgasm!

 

So next time a girl go “crazy” on you, that’s a compliment.

 

Handle the shit test well, know that she is interested in you, and have even more passionate sex later when you get together 🙂

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點解被拒絕咁hurt？有咩可以做…

Do you know why rejection is such a BIG FEAR for us?

 

If you want to study more, you can watch a Ted Talk by Guy Winch “Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid”

 

Reason #1 Rejection feels so bad because it PHYSICALLY HURTS.

MRI study: The part of your brain that lights up when a man gets rejected = same part of the brain that lights up when he experiences physical pain.

 

So rejection = being punched/stabbed, your body tells you it HURTS.

 

Reason #2 Our brains are wired this way because of evolution

Back in caveman days, if a man gets rejected by social circle = he is alone to defend against wild animals = unlikely to survive

 

So evolution makes us FEEL the rejection pain so that we change our behavior and remain in the tribe to stay alive.

 

Reason #3 We tend to imagine that everyone notices our rejection/ppl are watching, thus exaggerates the painful experience.

 

In reality, most ppl are just stuck in their own thinking, and that’s why no one actually pays attention to what you do.

 

Solution #1: Stop all self-criticism

Stop saying “she doesn’t like me/ damn I said sth wrong/ I am not good enough.”

=> Instead, reframe this as “Haha, she likes me and that’s why she gives me shit tests.” Have this “she likes me”frame 100% time.

 

Solution #2 Write down the Top 10 Qualities every day

– Reinforce and speak out aloud everyday why you are WORTH IT to build your self-esteem.

 

Solution #3: Proactive Socializing

– Always be meeting new people, new women. Don’t be passive and let your frds find you. Be proactive weekly so that you always find people who accepts and loves you.

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女人做愛最想做幾耐？【性知識】

A lot of guys assume women want sex to last for HOURS “marathon sex”, but in reality it is NOT true.

 

Longer sex is NOT always better sex.

 

If you can give her orgasms, she is likely to love it no matter the duration of sex.

 

According to researchers in Penn State University／賓夕法尼亞州立大學  Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani,

 

they conducted a survey of 50 sex professionals (doctors, psychologists, sex researchers) 1-2 mins is TOO SHORT,  3-7 mins as adequate, 7-13 mins as desierable, and 13-30 mins as too long

 

They are referring to PENETRATIVE sex without including foreplay.

 

So if you can last for 10+ mins, that’s already good to most women.

 

Conclusion: The key is to focus on the QUALITY of your sex, rather than quantity (how long it lasts).

 

Different women want different things in different situations, so STOP using a clock while fvcking!!

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離開friendzone的超簡單3步曲！【技巧篇】

離開friendzone的超簡單3步曲！【技巧篇】

 

#1 Distance yourself

Create an absence so that her perception of you changes. You are no longer always available, so this forces her to think about you.

Right now, she only sees you as a sexless platonic guy. Such vacuum will slowly eliminate the old perception of the beta you

 

#2  Reconnect

After you eradicate the weak nice guy image, you need to come back with a new image and let her see your change subtle or indirectly.

However, you MUST NOT play nice to her like you used to, don’t listen to her relationship problems, don’t be her friend again!

When you stop being a doormat, she will see you in a different light.

 

#3 Spark Attraction

Now it’s time to do what you have been learning: teasing, challenging, be a fun guy to hang around with, have your passions, not always being available, continuously seeing other women, making extended eye contact and physical touches to increase sexual tension etc.

You never did these things b4, you tried to remain neutral b4, and that’s why you were in the FZ.

Now that you have a new image, it’s time to try again with a much more attractive version of you!

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