點解廿幾歲仔咁迷失?點知人生要做乜?【人生/成功】[MAN Talk 073]

巴打,睇緊今日呢段片嘅你,好可能係廿歲左右階段嘅年青才俊。

係呢個階段,你可能間唔中就會問下自己究竟人生意義係啲乜嘢?唔知道自己嚟緊要做乜,每日都好迷惘,有好多疑問同挑戰。

事實係:廿歲左右既男仔,好多時都好迷失唔知自己將來要做乜。

父母社會老師朋友都甚少鼓勵佢哋勇敢行自己嘅路,好多時都係叫你人云亦云讀書搵工結婚生仔。

雖然我唔可以代替你解答『你人生應該做啲咩』,你一定要靠自己搵到答案;但今日我想同你分享3大原因點解你呢一刻咁迷失,讓你更清晰下一步可以做啲咩。

如果你鍾意今日特別啲嘅topic嘅話,就請你即刻LIKE同訂閱我哋嘅YT channel,follow我manupmanson嘅IG,睇完後留言話我知你嚟緊想睇咩內容啦!

#1 你迷網最常見嘅原因,係因為你利用學校/讀書作為藉口,逃避係現實社會工作打拼。

好多人都會講話『想整靚份CV』所以想繼續讀書,搞到廿幾三十歲都未做嘢;

但現實係:僱主或者市場係唔care你讀咗咩degree,最重要嘅係你做到成績幫公司搵到錢,或者係市場上解決到問題創造價值。

好多人讀master或者phd,完全係因為驚脫離學術世界之後唔知自己做到啲乜嘢;

但你想成功,你想盡快搵到人生意義嘅話,你就要出嚟了解搵錢賺錢究竟係一回咩事,因為冇嘢係比起現實攞經驗更加實用。

所以除非你好清晰你將來搵錢嘅方法係需要某某degree,比如醫生律師會計師,否則你再讀書都係嘥時間。

#2 第二種你迷網最常見嘅原因就係掉返轉,你可能唔太care你嘅學業成績,但係就沉迷於紙醉金迷嘅娛樂世界。

意思姐係話:你變成一個極端嘅消費者,你知道晒所有吃喝玩樂嘅潮流,你睇晒最近有咩最hit嘅電視電影劇集,你完全知道邊個明星巡迴演唱會,或者電音節幾時喺邊度舉行…

有咁樣嘅觸覺唔係壞事,至少你個人咁好玩都大機會啲溝女;但不知不覺地你就會成為consumer而唔係producer,你唔識得生產嘅話,你永遠就唔會活一個成功+有意義嘅生命。

所以每次你要做決定嘅時候,試下問下自己:『究竟呢樣嘢係咪令到我變得更有自信,令我更快達到我嘅個人目標呢?定係呢種行為即係係度止緊血,繼續逃避唔去成為我想成為嘅人呢?』

咁樣你就知道咩對你長遠有益或者無益。

#3 第三種你迷網嘅常見原因,就係因為你進入咗錯嘅男女關係裡面

Relationships就係會消耗你嘅能量時間,兩樣都係你人生最重要嘅資產。

太多年輕男仔都係未了解兩性遊戲之前,就盲中中進入排他性嘅拍拖關係,不斷虛耗能量時間係一個『以為會一生一世』嘅女人上面。

唔好彩嘅話,廿幾歲就做爸爸,最後你一生嘅夢想都會因為『家庭責任』而毀於一旦。

坦白講,廿幾歲嘅你99%嘅時間都係會揀錯女人,你會誤以為『鍾意有feel』就代表條女係合適嘅長遠伴侶。

再加埋你拍拖每次分手嘅dramas,你廿幾歲嘅歲月就係咁樣虛度過,最後就會出現迷惘唔知自己做乜嘅惡果。

#4 咁所以講左咁耐,巴打你應該做啲咩去脫離呢啲迷失嘅狀態呢?簡單講:

第一,你要對自己坦白,抽時間坐係度睇下自己究竟鍾意啲乜嘢/關心啲乜嘢,跟從你好奇有興趣嘅嘢發掘自己,塑造自己個人嘅使命。

究竟你死之前想做啲咩呢?如果你有一億身家嘅話,你而家會即刻做啲咩呢?如果你可以將你嘅熱誠化為事業,你又會做啲咩呢?

第二,你要學識同時享受當下,又要計劃未來。

好有效嘅一個方法就係問下自己:如果我仲有50年命,我會點樣塑造我嘅lifestyle呢?與此同時,如果我得返50日命,我又會做啲乜嘢令自己死而無悔呢?

然後以兩種截然不同嘅態度去同時生活。

第三,擁抱改變,擁抱不確定性,無信心都要繼續行動繼續試繼續行。

達到夢想係需要時間,成功成就係需要耐性。

唔好妥協於yolo fvckboy嘅嬉皮士生活,唔好妥協於淨係讀書做嘢賺錢無life嘅生活,更加唔好妥協於未如理想嘅兩性感情。

繼續捱苦前進,繼續勤力打拼,繼續好高騖遠地做啲少人做嘅嘢,你先可以離開羊群,你先可以離開中產嘅average,你先會改變到自己同人哋嘅生命。

今集好長,如果巴打鍾意並且想我講多啲類似今集內容嘅topic嘅話,就請你即刻LIKE同訂閱我哋嘅YT channel,follow我manupmanson嘅IG啦,下集見!

若我是17,18歲,今天會做什麽?給年青巴打的三大建議!【人生/溝女/成就】

巴打,今集嘅MTFU比較特別,因為過去呢幾個月,相信你都可以感受到世界喺可以有幾咁邪惡無恥,比你睇到人類美麗與醜陋嘅一面。

咁所以我係度諗:如果今日嘅我只有17,18歲,但我能夠擁有咁耐以來累積嘅知識,智慧,經驗與認知,我又會比自己邊3大建議,去做一系列嘅嘢去position自己十幾二十年後去到最理想嘅位置呢?

所以今集可以話喺我自己寫俾自己嘅信,希望當中嘅內容協助到各位巴打有策略地繼續打拼自己生命,唔好因為短暫嘅黑暗而放棄選擇光明。

#1 首先第一個我想各位巴打明白嘅重點就係:去到終極關頭嘅時候,無人喺可以保護或者關心到你;就算有幾多有心嘅同路人都好,去到臨界點嘅時候,你生唔生存到,最後都只能夠依靠你自己。

記住: No one can give a fvck about you MORE than you can for yourself. 

無論係你身體肉體上嘅安危,定係你同女人嘅感情處理,定係你建立到幾多財富或者影響力,一切嘅終極責任都係取決於你自己。

唔好天真地誤以為人類喺超越咗動物世界嘅規則,事實係:人類就係食物鏈上最頂尖嘅獵食者,而社會上某一類人喺絕對會透過欺凌殘暴不仁嘅手段去剝削你。

咁所以第一大嘅建議比各位巴打就係:由今日開始,你必須奉獻你自己人生嘅一部分時間去鍛煉『打交』,去學識點樣自衛同攻擊!

我知道近排已經有好多人咁講,但我想你知道嘅係:

功夫並唔係一時三刻學得識嘅事,亦都喺一樣你學完絕對唔想應用嘅技能;但係無論係本地定係外國旅行,仲有一日你會遇上有意圖傷害你生命嘅恐怖分子,咁所以喺嗰啲關鍵時刻,你所學嘅格鬥術或者情景意識會好可能就係拯救你同你愛嘅人生命嘅轉捩點。

5年前世界已經夠仆街,今日已經喺明目張膽地肆無忌憚;如果巴打你身為男人,今日都唔開始的起心肝學識保護自己嘅話,5年後你同你屋企人又會點樣被人魚肉呢?

#2 第二個我想各位年青巴打帶走嘅重點就係:當你下決心每日征服自己physical嘅一面嘅時候,下一步就係要征服自己對兩性遊戲嘅認知,學識男女各自嘅不同動機。

點解明白女人竟然喺第二步,而唔係首先明白點樣搵大錢建立社會權力先呢?

原因就係:世界上喺充斥著有錢有權有勢,但係心理上完全被女人操控,兩性關係上搞得一團糟嘅億萬富豪!

呢一類型嘅強勢Beta男喺最危險最唔可靠,因為去到緊急嘅關頭,佢哋好可能就會因為某條索女嘅心理影響下,做出一啲反常行為去出賣自己或者你!

佢哋建立咁多嘢嘅目的,好多時底層都係希望最終得到女人嘅認同/validation,希望自己咁辛苦拚搏最終會得到女人對自己嘅愛。

好多呢啲強勢Beta男都係極不穩定嘅計時炸彈,去到某一點就會爆煲,就好似現實鐵甲人Elon Musk 或者亞馬遜創辦人 Jeff Bezos 兩個事業強人,最後都係因為『女人』而搞到自己情緒極痛苦抑鬱,同埋因為離婚而冇咗幾百億身家!

咁所以第二樣17,18歲年輕巴打要做嘅事,就係開始認真研究女人兩性嘅topic,大量地不斷練習實戰,唔好令自己變成一個將來會被女人支配,或者被其他人透過女人操控你嘅Alpha男人!

#3 最後第三樣我想各位年青巴打帶走嘅重點就係:喺呢個年代你喺無咁嘅luxury去做一個平庸或者所謂『樣樣ok唔太差嘅中產』,因為你想生存或者享受到自由嘅話,你無最大嘅財富同影響力喺無人會理你嘅意見!

喺巴打你問我點做之前,我想你冷靜客觀地諗一諗:

如果唔係我哋幾代人過去百幾年不斷爭氣,如果我哋現時嘅領土唔係擁有特殊嘅國際地位,如果我哋唔係因為自己有value(或者講得衰啲有利用價值)在先嘅話,你估下世界其他地方會唔會咁高度關注我哋嘅事態發展呢?

你估下我哋會唔會有幸成為其他國家嘅談判籌碼,直接間接地幫我哋止到一陣血呢?

巴打,殘酷嘅現實就係:我哋如果自己無value在先嘅話,好大可能根本無人有意慾去care我哋嘅安危,我哋好可能亦一早就已經被人屠城死撚晒。

我絕對明白有錢有權唔一定令你開心快樂,但我哋更加要明白:出面喺有一堆人將會故意惡意地某一日搞戇你剝削你;如果你唔主動去累積自己嘅社會力量嘅話,你就會無奈無辜地變成被屠宰嘅羔羊。

喺極端嘅時候,無團體/制度/法律/道理喺可以完善地保護到你;面對野蠻嘅惡人,你最後都係只能依靠你累積嘅資源去反擊。

咁所以巴打,男人條命就喺永遠唔可以鬆懈,永遠都需要進步level up自己各方面,從而藉此希望可以生存到,保護到你自己,你嘅資產,同埋你愛嘅身邊嘅人。

我相信你可以深切地feel到世界有幾fvcked up,你亦都感受到情勢有幾嚴峻…

咁所以我邀請各位巴打爭氣,無論嚟緊呢條路有幾長,無論我哋嘅屋企最終會否被吞噬殲滅…

希望你都可以嚟緊每一日都緊記『恐怖/兇殘/邪惡其實一直都喺你我現實身邊』,然後利用呢種『不安嘅畫面』成為每日嚴苛操練自己嘅推動力,每日打拼我以上比你嘅三大建議。

如果巴打你有興趣MTFU內部嚟緊嘅新動向,你可以腥電郵去support@manthefvckup.com 查詢我哋Insider內部兄弟幫嘅課程睇下幫唔幫唔到你。

最後祝願你同你身邊嘅人平安,勿忘初衷,永不放棄,永遠唔好被懶惰妥協版本嘅你打敗自己!

你現在定的目標,你肯定係你真正想要? [人生智慧]

I was recently having lunch with an old friend who is very successful in society’s standard – very wealthy, make multiple millions, have a great pretty gf, can travel anywhere anytime he wants –

and we stumbled upon the discussion on how to know whether our goals are SOMETHING WE REALLY WANT instead of what people want for us?

Take a second to think about this:  Is your goal right now something YOU want, OR society/marketing forces tells you to want it?

Your next car? Your next house? Your job? Your girlfriend? Your possessions? Your places to go because you heard it can take nice pics for your IG?

Then, we discussed the 1 Q we can ask ourselves to distinguish the REAL thing and the FAKE thing, and that is…

“If no one in the world knows what you do/ what you have, OR if you cannot show off what you do/what you have to the world, would you still continue doing it?”

Boom, can you see how liberating this Q is?

E.g. If you can’t show off that Red Ferrari or green Lamborghini to the world, would you still try to own it?

If you can’t show off this HOT SEXY MODEL to the world, would you still choose to attract her, keep her as a girlfriend OR like hanging around with her?

If you can’t tell your parents/relatives that you are a doctor, lawyer, judge, government top official, investment banker, would you still LOVE DOING THIS JOB?

If no one in the world sees that you can sing/dance/act, would you still join the entertainment industry and try to be famous?

I want you to ponder on this Q today and reflect on what you have been trying to do/ get/ be…

…it will LIBERATES you from all the social bullshit and toxic ideas as to what you really want to DO/HAVE/EXPERIENCE in your life 🙂

為何父母有幾好都會fvck up我地?【男女感情/情感治療/個人成長】

Hey brother/sister, do you know that no matter how good/bad your childhood was, it is going to affect your love & relationship life?

 

No matter whether your parents took care of you OR never took care of you, our childhood experience WILL influence what kinds of partners we attract in a romantic relationship.

 

#1 Why? It’s because as a child, we are helpless and ego-centric.

 

On one hand, we crave love & attention from our primary caretakers;

 

On the other hand, our naive self believe that every +ve/-ve reactions from others MUST be because of you.

 

If they treat you good, you think “Me = Good”.

 

If they treat you bad/negligent, you think “Me = bad”and something is wrong with you.

 

#2 Do you know why EVERY human being is fvcked up by their parents?

 

It’s because even though you have the BEST parents in the world, they are gonna do sth unconscious that make you conclude that you are NOT good enough.

 

E.g. Daddy comes home, you want to play with him, he said too tired and go watch TV, YOU conclude that you are NOT lovable.

 

E.g. You broke a vase, mum gave you a quick angry look and said you are so naughty to do that, you conclude YOU = BAD = NOT lovable  

 

So little innocent acts from our caretakers will easily make kids conclude that they are NOT good enough.

 

#3 What do kids do then?

 

Because of fear of abandonment, we develop a series of survival mechanism.

 

Maybe we tried to achieve good grades to get our parents attention…


Maybe we withdrew as a hermit and play computer games alone to avoid rejection…


Maybe we intentionally behaved badly just to get their attention…

 

No matter how we adapt, we start to force our identity to behave in certain ways in order to get love and approval.

 

And that’s how we develop extreme good boys/extreme bad boys traits to survive in childhood.

 

How about you brother?

 

Which strategy did you use?

 

Can you see how such identity shaping will affect what kind of women you attract?

 

Feel free to share your story and we’ll start to see why we behave in certain ways today as an adult.


Like and Share this video if you think it’s valuable to others, if you want to dive deeper in this topic, let me know.

你夠愛自己嗎?自愛對溝女的極度重要性!

Are you aware that our biggest enemy is always ourselves?

 

And one common mistake we all do is to CRITICIZE ourselves too harshly that eventually hurts our self-esteem.

 

So let me ask you: Do you love yourself? Can you extend your kindness and love towards your ownself?

 

If you crave happiness, connection, emotional strength and love in the world, you gotta stop being an asshole to yourself and love yourself more FULLY everyday.

 

#1 Meet the basic needs of yourself first

 

E.g. Full night sleep, eat nutritious food, train your body at least 3 times a week

 

If you overload your body with crap, your life is crap!

 

#2 Don’t ignore your emotions

 

Everytime we ignore our certain emotions and just “deal with life”, that ignored emotions will always come back STRONGER to make you pay attention to it.

 

E.g. Ignored stress -> anxiety ->panic attacks.

Ignored frustration-> anger-> rage.


Ignored sadness -> numbness ->depression.

 

Listen to your body and what your emotions are telling you.

 

They are signals on things you should or shouldn’t do MORE!

 

#3 Observe how you critize others

How you treat others externally often reflects how you treat yourself internally.

If you judge others harshly, you also judge yourself harshly when you feel bad.

 

So learn how to treat people with KINDNESS.

We don’t always know what others are going through.

Instead of judging so quickly, step back and be curious WHY they behave in certain ways.

That’s a little known way that helps you love yourself as well.

男人!如何倍增你的雄性力量?三大招揭盅!

https://youtu.be/k-wkDiL3OfADo you want to feel that RAW, STRONG, POWERFUL WARRIOR-like masculine energy running through your body every day so that you get crush your work or double your attractiveness as a MAN?

 

Here are 3 exercises that help you feel DRIVEN, FOCUSED, sexually AROUSED and become a badass king of life.

 

#1 High Intensity Workout

 

Lifting heavy weights or doing any forms of exercises that challenges your body to EXPLODE for a short period of time will BOOST your T-level and give you an endorphin high.

 

Compound exercises (squats, deadlifts, pullups) = great way to boost your fitness, sex drive and self confidence

 

#2 Fight!

 

Men should always have the ability to fight and defend his tribe. Our T is both a sex and aggression hormone that can be used for GOOD.

 

Even if you don’t have any martial arts training…when you want to feel like a man again, try shadow boxing at home.

 

Imagine attackers are coming to your home to kill your parents, rape your girlfriend and torture your kids, then you do whatever it takes to punch/ kick /elbow /knee to defend your family!

 

#3 Have Men-Only Time

 

Spending time with other men (without women) can inspire each other’s masculine energy. That’s why gangs have been a social phenomenon for centuries.

 

If you feel that your masculine energy needs some boost, if you want more drive, purpose and direction… then you MUST hangout with other men regularly.

 

And that’s why I have created MTFU Insider, a men-only club to give you all the mindsets, skillsets and action steps to become the attractive MAN you desire to be.

 

Also, we hangout every 2 weeks so that each member has the opportunity to interact with me and get personal feedback about their path.

 

However, this tribe is not for everyone, especially not for dabblers.

 

So if you are interested to know more OR want to see if you qualify to join, feel free to email us at support@manthefvckup.com to get more info.

 

如何又成功又心靈滿足?【人生成就】

How can we balance striving for future success while still being joyful in the present moment?

 

For men, it’s relatively for us to aim for that $1M/month, that 6-pack abs, that problem-free relationship with a hot model and achieve one things after another as if you are checking a to-do-list box.

 

While it’s a masculine thing to be driven, hitting goals and shooting for the Mars, if you aren’t CONTENT with what you have already done and CONTENT with the present moment and the journey, your life will be fucking miserable.

 

Just like many famous celebrities in history (Robin Williams/ Marilyn Monroe/ MJ/ Leslie Cheung/ Danny Chan), they seem to HAVE IT ALL – money, fame, women, achievements, they seem to be making EVERYONE in the world happy, but they fail to make themselves joyful and fulfilled and it’s SAD that they killed themselves.

 

So how can we be HAPPY with ourselves NOW, while we want more in life?

 

#1 Give yourself a break/rejuventation time regularly

 

Without optimal health & fitness, you can’t achieve your big goals.  

 

But even if you never miss your ROUTINE, sometimes it’s OKAY to say FVCK IT and eat that delicious meal and indulge in some pleasures.

 

Don’t be guilty because you have EARNED that right to 放縱一下自己, getting 2% body fat back from 8% isn’t going to make you less hot.

 

#2 Don’t neglect your dating life or intimate relationship

 

The longest Harvest study in human history “The Grant Study” discovered that “Our relationships and how happy we are in our relationships has a powerful influence on our health.”

 

+ ““Loneliness kills. It’s as powerful as smoking or alcoholism.”

 

+ “When the study began, nobody cared about empathy or attachment. But the key to healthy aging is relationships, relationships, relationships.”

 

So are you taking PROACTIVE action to meet, attract and keep that person with you?

 

#3 Slow the fvck down and schedule your FUN ENJOYMENT time

 

We live in a fvcked up achievement-driven “successful” hardworking modern 1st-tier city, but researches & studies have again and again proved that many first world citizens are NOT happy with that lives, while many poorer ppl are happier.

 

I am not suggesting not to make that 500K/month, I am suggesting instead of striving to accumulate more traditional “success symbols” – house, cars, women, children -,

 

maybe you should reconsider what TRUE SUCCESS & HAPPINESS in your own fvcking terms.

 

Get the fuck out of this city and see the world as it is, and see how DIFFERENT it is than what you are SOLD in the fvcking media.

 

Change your environment regularly, and what you believe is a “good life” will be changed constantly.

沉迷A片打飛機?有解藥了!【性知識】

Let’s be honest guys, if you are addicted to ejaculating with porn, you are fvcked and you are doomed to be a fvcking loser.

 

Understand: Your sexual energy/drive is your most precious & powerful form of energy that you can use to do great things.

 

You EITHER submit to the fvcking porn OR you harness that drive to make your life legendary.

 

Your sex energy is what makes you a productive, driven & attractive man.

So here’s how to overcome such addiction:

男人女人各有弱點,小心!【男女感情】

Everyone has their masculine & feminine energy, and each of these energies have their weakness/blind spots.

 

#1 Masculine energy is driven, directional, single-focused, strict.

 

It’s like a laser beam, it can penetrate things, but it can also burn things around.  E.g. a very driven successful businessman who makes a lot of money, but he completely neglect his wife and children

 

So masculine weakness = too caught up in DOING/ACHIEVING but isn’t living life fully, they aren’t experiencing enjoyment

 

#2 Feminine Energy is flexible, creative, nuturing, flowing.

 

It’s like a hurricane power, if it is not guided, it can be destructive and turn things into chaos and suffering.

 

Thus, while masculine energy cherish time to get shit done, feminine enjoy being in the moment without much directionality.

 

#3 If your core is masculine, you feel alive when ppl challenge you to accomplish a goal. But if your core is feminine, you feel alive when you relax and enjoy yourself.

 

The point is: Neither energy is more right/valuable than the other. We need both in ourselves (80/20) while staying in our CORE and attracting a partner in THEIR CORE.

 

100% masculine male can be a ruthless dictator, 100% feminine can be someone who indulge in pleasure lalaland.


Be aware of where your energy is, and be aware of why you attract the partner you have today, because sexual attraction is very much about this energy play between you two.