點解偏執型人格咁痴線?4大原因![FBI教你危險人物 Ep.016]

Book Ref:

<Dangerous Personalities> by Joe Navarro

#1 永遠以猜疑眼光看待世界

These ppl are always full of suspicions. They think ppl are trying to harm him.

So when they interact with you, they want you to listen and VALIDATE his/her beliefs/信仰, and when you don’t, they suspect you are a threat as well.

They may be quiet/reserved/shy, but they can also be loud/好勇鬥狠,they may show up in demonstrations and become violent e.g. damage cars & properties.

Again, what drives them is irrational fear/毫無理性嘅恐懼。To Tthem,高度仇恨與恐懼,就係令生命有意義同目標。

#2 疑神疑鬼,怕東怕西,遮遮掩掩

因為極度猜疑,所以會毫無根據地監控別人言行舉止,衡量對方是否有邪惡意圖。

他們社交上十分怠慢,喜歡保持神秘,不願透露自己的事,甚至說謊掩飾自己行蹤與真實意圖,連家人都不相信。

They can fear anything e.g. ppl from certain countries/ethnicity, food source, neighbor, animals, technology, government, boss, new colleague, insurance company, emails etc.

因為多疑,他們甚至會記錄其他人的行蹤,或者製造敵人名單去保護自己。

#3 堅持己見,好勝爭論

健全健康嘅人 -> 可以適應新情況,擁抱新觀念,因環境改變,可以理解別人不同的立場與信念

Paranoid -> 不理會邏輯與實證,只會憑自己的洞察力去爭論;When you disagree, you are an enemy

選擇性扭曲歷史,將無關事件和想法串埋一齊,塑造自己觀點,理直氣壯同你拗。

Dangerous distorted beliefs:

E.g. If I kill enough scientists, I’ll stop the advance of technology.

E.g. 拉登 “If I kill enough Americans, the US will leave the Middle East.”

#4 難以平復舊傷患,好記仇

會狠狠記住過去的傷痛,你任何的無心之失,就算惡意,佢都會覺得你留下污點,缺乏忠誠嘅指標,不會原諒你。

當你成為敵人,佢就會理直氣壯採取行動:避開你,背後暗算你,密謀反對你,破壞摧毀屬於你嘅嘢,甚至殺害你。

So these paranoids 一點一滴收集舊傷患,然後利用呢啲材料為報仇藉口。

E.g. Laden used 十一世紀十字軍東征,合理化911

E.g. Hitler used 2000年前嘅猶太人嘅歷史傷口,作為報仇。

Next week,

We’ll talk about the 關鍵字 + how they affect us.

你條女邊個都唔相信?佢有偏執型人格![FBI教你危險人物 Ep.015]

Book Ref:

<Dangerous Personalities> by Joe Navarro

Have you ever encountered girls who are extremely fearful, always be on the guard, super protective about herself, always thinking “world is ending”, and no matter how close you are with her, she just NEVER TRUSTS you?

If yes, congrats because you’ve met a person with Paranoid Personality, which is the 3rd type of dangerous personalities in this book.

#1 In short, people with paranoid personalities are those 充滿非理性嘅懷疑同恐懼。

充滿猜忌,思考僵化,蠻不講理,愛批評,充滿偏見,神經緊張,過度提防別人,覺得人哋做所有嘢都係『別有用心』。

額外特質:容易被侮辱,好爭論,妒忌,心懷舊怨恨,質疑他人動機,挑戰規則,充滿恐懼與厭惡,討厭唔同自己嘅人。

#2 You are surrounded by these people:

E.g. Driver thinks you cut him off intentionally, then  keep horning/headlight flashing or even follow you home.

E.g. Your friend who thinks every guy is trying to fvck his gf/wife, and keep mate guarding her.

E.g. 勁抱怨其他人升職加薪,但自己冇份嘅人

E.g. 每個星期都喺政府部門抱怨大罵,威脅要訴訟嘅人

E.g. 網上匿名嘅攻擊,指控你做某啲嘢立心不良

E.g. 過去舊同事或舊女友因為不滿待遇不公,無啦啦身懷兇器上office搞大件事嘅人

E.g. 覺得自己懷才不遇嘅知識分子,跟住向世界報復嘅人

#3 簡單講,呢啲人唔單止性情古怪,佢哋更會被非理性嘅恐懼與懷疑而驅使自己行動;

佢哋喺一啲反應過敏,容易被冒犯嘅人;一旦被激怒/拒絕/羞辱,佢哋就會好可能進行極端嘅報復。

If + narcissism, 暴力就會提升,『擋我者死』地清除威脅。

So they are hard to treat, because they don’t think they have problem; and they SUSPECT people’s intentions who try to help.

That’s the intro to paranoid personality.

In our next video, we’ll talk about the 4 big traits of how they behave so that you can be ALERTED when they appear in your life!