作者: Man神

[溝女] 點解溝女認真你便會輸了？

 

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊。

 

今日我想好快教你可以點樣唔依賴你嘅語言都可以溝到你想要嘅女人。

 

如果你有睇好多唔同嘅型男電影，

 

無論係James Bond，Ocean’s 11嘅George Clonney同Brad Pitt，定係Topgun裡面嘅Tom Cruise，

 

好多時你都會見到呢啲型男點樣可以短時間之內，冇咩點樣語言交流嘅情況下都可以色誘到某位女士。

 

#0 點解會出現呢啲神奇嘅情況呢？

 

係咪純粹因為佢哋好靚仔呢？

 

 

究竟佢哋講咗啲乜嘢『神奇句子』令到條女馬上打開雙腳呢？

 

答案就係：正如我一直所講，大部分嘅男女溝通都係非語言，

 

我相信你都聽過其他人講過話人類嘅communication有超過九成都係non verbal。

 

但係你可能唔知道嘅就係，幾乎所有嘅seduction原來都係發生緊係一個非語言嘅層次。

 

咁你可以點樣實質地運用呢樣嘢呢？

 

答案就係：你只需要記住以下兩條重要原則。

 

#1 原則一： 你喺必須透過你嘅身體感受你嘅慾望，去feel下自己嘅desire。

 

好多男人去識女仔或者溝女嘅時候所犯嘅錯誤，就係嘗試去隱藏自己內在嘅sexual desire。

 

如果你咁樣去抑壓自己嘅自然感受，

 

女人就會一係覺得你好creepy因為佢嘅直覺會feel到你好似『有啲野收埋緊／嘗試隱藏』，

 

又或者一係覺得你無乜特別，有啲悶，平平無奇一個正常neutral嘅人咁。

 

你要記住：女人喺同男人一樣咁鍾意做愛，佢都想feel到自己『被撻著鹹濕』嘅一面；

 

而且當佢哋感受到對方對自己嘅desire嘅時候，其實係一種好high嘅感覺，

 

（只要你係以一種尊重，唔係冒犯入侵佢嘅態度就ok）。

 

#2 第二條原則就係： 讓女人去感受到你想要佢嘅能量。

 

意思係：你係唔會透過語言／words去同佢就咁講話：『Yo，你好索呀，我哋去扑嘢囉！』咁乸戇鳩嘅！

 

所謂嘅『直接』，係應該透過非語言嘅途徑去做。

 

好多男人做錯嘅，就係可能會好奇怪地咁樣啤住條女，又或者靜靜雞地暗地裏gup著條女…

 

但係呢啲都係creepy嘅行為，因為所謂嘅creepy，就係當你嘗試唔畀佢發現嘅情況下『欣賞佢』…千祈唔好咁做！

 

相反，你係應該比佢意識到你對佢有性趣，你對佢有sexual interest。

 

譬如話你被佢吸引望住佢嘅時候，你絕對可以一路聆聽佢講嘢期間，

 

一路喺度諗住同自己講話『Wow，佢真係令到我好心動，令到我個心卜卜咁跳。』

 

，透過你的眼神去communicate比佢知你嘅慾望。

 

#3 重點就係：你率先自己去感受果種desire，然後透過眼神交流讓佢感受到你毫不隱藏嘅desire。

 

如果你肯用呢種欣賞佢嘅態度去appreciate佢嘅美態，

 

女人就唔會覺得你對佢嘅性慾望係變態，而你亦都唔需要用口講話『我鍾意你』先至可以吸引到佢。

 

當然你咁樣做唔代表你100%可以溝到佢啦，

 

但係你係透過你嘅vulnerability，話俾佢知道你係有勇氣並且open讓佢知道你對佢嘅興趣；

 

而佢係有自由去睇下自己夠唔夠醒目選擇高價值嘅你。

 

以上就係一啲好多你睇唔到但係男女發生緊嘅誘惑術，

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊。

 

現代約會最大嘅問題係乜嘢呢？ 

 

Tip：It’s in most people’s pockets…

 

Problem = smartphones = distraction

 

No one is paying fucking attention to each other!

 

大部分人都忘記咗咩叫做約會，咩叫做hang out，咩叫做約出嚟玩

 

Presence = Giving complete, and undivided attention to someone else

 

It’s like a modern date is no longer between two people, 200 people!!!

 

點解會發生呢啲咁唔尊重嘅情況呢？

 

=》Not enough men are telling their dates to put their phone away！

 

And today I’m going to teach you how a real man tells a woman to put her phone away in a polite and powerful way

 

#1 Easiest way = to tell her how you feel…

 

『喂喂，我覺得我同你傾偈嘅時候，你喺度玩電話，我唔係幾鍾意呢種感覺。』

 

＃2 狂用電話已經喺一種喺社會氾濫嘅傳染病，所以好多人都唔知道自己中毒幾深。

 

咁所以如果需要嘅話，你可以用另一句同佢講話：

 

『啊，Kary啊，其實同你相處都幾舒服嘅，但係我唔太鐘意我哋出嚟嘅時候，同你其他朋友一齊分享我嘅時間囉。』

 

以上一句係有禮貌並且強勁嘅句子，

 

你係話畀佢知雖然你對佢有興趣，但係如果佢唔能夠集中嘅話你都唔會接受。

 

＃3 最後第三句，亦都係有禮貌地最後警告佢嘅說話，就係同佢講：

 

『啊，你咁忙，不如等你下次熄咗個電話，我哋先再繼續啦。』

 

Boom！

 

呢句句子喺好勁嘅最後通牒，係話畀佢知雖然你對佢有興趣，

 

但係如果佢唔能夠畀full attention你嘅話，你係可以隨時walk away走人，因為你係知道自己嘅時間有幾珍貴。

 

＃4 最後想講嘅就係：我以上教你嘅說話雖然係好有威力，

 

但係如果巴打你唔能夠以身作則，自己又喺度玩電話嘅話，咁樣人哋唔尊重你都係抵你死！

 

咁所以請你記住要lead by example，

 

要記住你自己首先唔好玩電話，你先至有資格邀請其他人唔好咁做。

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

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Gordon：MAN神我近排成日遇到一個問題。

 

我鐘意的女仔唔係成日同我見面，所以佢好少主動聯絡。

 

但既然我要吸引佢的話，唔主動showup 聯絡佢，又點可以吸引到佢呢？

 

如果我不斷wtsapp佢，即使我試著唔去理會介意佢的感受，重視自愛，又會唔會show到自己太needy呢？謝謝

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#1 First, what I hear now is that the problem is NOT that you don’t know how to contact her,

 

the real problem is WHY isn’t she interested/attracted enough to find an “excuse” to talk to you.

 

If a girl is interested in you, they often will find an “excuse” to let you know that they’re paying attention to you – whether via whatsapp, IG, SC etc.

 

So what concerns me now is that right now, she has ALREADY put you in a sexless platonic friendzone.

 

You’re not even her close FZ, otherwise she will be at least chatting with you on a regular basis.

 

#2  If you want to ATTRACT them passively, you gotta do 2 things.

– Build a REAL active social life where you can take a lot of pics and videos

 

– Then POST them in your FB/IG to let girls passively invest a bit of time/energy on you.

 

When you do these right, you will discover that they often will find “excuse” to PM/DM you about some stuff, and from there you can start chatting.

 

#3 Yes, in this situation, if you persists on whatsapping her, that’s only showing your neediness.

What you are communicating is all beta-male bahviors:

– You have so much time to waste on her = you don’t have a fvcking life apart from you

– You are so eager to get her attention i.e. chasing

– You are so desperate to get her out = Don’t you have any women in your life?

 

Although dating doesn’t mean you sit at your room, being passive and doing nothing,

 

the best way to meet girls in a high value way is that you ARE DOMINATE YOUR PATH,

 

doing stuff that EXCITES YOU,

 

and “it just happens that you meet her along the way”.

 

And if she is cool, you invite her out for social stuff for further qualification, in case you haven’t done much at the first contact.

 

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Manson!  我有問題！

.

我地所host嘅活動係咪一定要雙方都有好大興趣？

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攞個example就應該明白！

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我對唱K興趣不大，但我喜歡認識中意唱歌嘅女仔，

 

我係唔係姐係要be active去搞一啲follow人地其他女仔feel interested嘅活動？

 

定係我要再host一個brand-new嘅idea去suit自己？

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仲有另一方面嘅疑問：

 

我對野外活動嘅興趣好大，但係我冇法子從目前生活圈中認識有呢種興趣嘅人，我要點樣起步？

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It maybe naive but that’s my question

Thx， Alex

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Alex,

 

In the long term, you do want to find people with similar interests, hobbies, mindsets and passions.

 

That’s a more sustainable social group because neither of you are accommodating oneself to do stuff you don’t like.

 

Compatibility is an important element if you’re looking for something long term, especially a girlfriend.

 

However, in the short term where you’re training your social skills,

 

it’s okay to do both to allow yourself meet more new people and discover what kind of personality/character you like or not.

 

After a while, you’ll feel what resonates with YOU the most and have more clarity what you truly want.

 

 

P.S. Sometimes we may slowly find interest in stuff we used NOT to like.

 

To me, I used to HATE singing K because I didn’t like my voice.

 

But now, I LOVE it because I started to know how to project my voice better, and girls complimented on my singing and fun attitude lol

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想請教你一d問題！ 我同C小姐相識十年， 中學曾經喺埋一齊幾個月！ 最近兩年先聯絡返！

 

我個心儀對象C小姐最緊同男朋友分手， 佢哋喺埋一齊咗接近三年！

 

係佢主動飛左男仔！ 佢話個男仔經常望其他女，望足幾秒！ 因為呢個原因經常吵架！

 

琴日佢去男朋友屋企執曬嘢走，晚上佢約咗我， 喺我樓下公園跑步！

 

大部分時間都係講佢男朋友啲衰嘢， 佢仲教我點樣追女仔！

 

跑完步我順便送佢返屋企， 當日嘅凌晨佢瞓唔著， 打咗畀我，

 

約我下個月去旅行( 之前曾經同佢講過我想去旅行，但冇人陪)，

 

但係唔單止我哋兩個， 仲有佢媽媽同細路都會去！

 

唔清楚佢對我有無好感？ 處女座好難捉摸！

 

同佢whatsapp，佢經常隔1－2個鐘先覆我！

 

請問Man神，如果想追返佢有冇咩方法？

Thank you !

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#1 To be honest,  if she’s angry because ” 佢話個男仔經常望其他女，望足幾秒 ” , then she is a very immature and insecure girl that you probably shouldn’t get close with.

 

#2 It seems that she is treating you as a GOOD FRIEND, and your behaviors are more like a good friend than a potential sexual partner/bf.

 

#3 Stop using the word ” 追”, it fvcks up everything.

 

Watch these for reference:

 

點解同女仔表白等於自殺？

 

男仔應該幾時表白!?

 

點解追女仔等於自殺？

 

#4 Stop being needy, ” 隔1－2個鐘先覆我” is such a normal thing.

 

#5 You can’t “get her as a gf” if she’s seeing you as a friend.

 

Let me ask you, what’s your current social life like?

 

How many other girls are you seeing?

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊。

你都知道對住女人講一啲pickup lines係唔work嘅，

 

但係你又可以做啲乜嘢，聽到你所講嘅嘢可以stand out／突出自己呢？

 

好簡單嘅一個方法：

 

就係如果你真心想稱讚囡囡嘅時候，你就一定要記得去稱讚一啲嗰條女獨有／unqiue嘅特質。

 

譬如話：

 

如果你對住佢講話：

 

『OMG，你把髮真係好靚，我淨係見到你喺度撥頭髮，我都已經扯曬旗…』，

 

你係呢世都唔使旨意溝到佢。lol

 

原因就係：女人雖然想男人覺得佢sexy，

 

但係佢更加想個男人係覺得佢夠SPECIAL夠特別， 係比起其他所有女人更能夠以獨特／unique嘅性感令到你扯旗。

 

咁所以當你想稱讚女人嘅時候，又或者share你嘅感受嘅時候，

 

記住你所講嘅嘢都盡量唔好係一啲copy and paste，可以套用喺其他女人身上，好旱嘅說話。

 

譬如你可以話：

 

『啊，雖然同你傾咗一陣計，

 

但係我覺得你係一個充滿正能量做嘢有passion嘅人。

 

幾好呀呢樣嘢，因為我超唔鍾意啲日日淨係識得喺度投訴放負嘅人囉。』

 

你咁樣講嘅話，

 

除咗係讚佢一啲內在嘅特質之後，

 

你更加係透露緊你自己揀人嘅standards，

 

你亦都係同時暗地裡篩選緊佢，一舉幾得！

 

今集就係咁精簡啦，鍾意今集嘅話就like，

 

留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，繼續協助你去成為一個有吸引力嘅現代男人，創造你想要戀愛生活。

 

其中一個好多男人都會遇上嘅問題，就係唔知道喺咩情境咩場合下去開始掂女仔，唔識得點樣做physical escalation。

 

咁你都應該知道，男人同女人就算有幾好傾，如果大家之間係冇身體接觸嘅話，你哋係冇可能開始任何嘅親密關係。

 

咁所以今日就想好快教你點樣可以完全唔會creepy地去掂任何女仔。

 

＃1 首先第一個貼士就係：如果你冇乜經驗掂女人，你就要首先學識留意自己幾時做咗啲行為係令女人唔鍾意。

 

譬如話：如果你行前同佢身體開始接近嘅時候，

 

但係呢個時候佢就back off／身體不自覺地退後一步，你就要醒水自己都要back off番少少，因為當時佢嘅反應暗示佢仲未ready好同你咁親密。

 

又例如：如果佢同你傾傾下計開始翹手唔耐煩，你都要開始翹返手；又或者如果佢無啦啦有少少轉身turn away，你都要學識turn away少少，即使你哋繼續傾計。

 

你就可以過渡去下一步。

 

＃2 當你識得點樣去模仿佢負面嘅身體語言嘅時候，第二個小貼士就係：你要學識掂女仔嘅時候唔好focus喺你掂佢嘅位置。

 

譬如話：你同佢傾緊計嘅時候想掂佢手臂外側，你係唔會無啦啦望住佢手臂外側跟住去點佢㗎嘛！

 

又或者你輕輕掂佢大髀嘅時候，你係唔會無啦啦望住佢大髀係咁摸架嘛…

 

如果你咁樣做嘅話，嗰啲就係creepy，嗰啲就係鹹濕變態佬。

 

另外一點就係：

 

你掂任何一個位置嘅時候都唔好掂太長，唔好stay喺同一個位置太耐，通常兩三秒內就已經足夠。

 

因為視乎你佢邊一個位置，如果你放喺同一個位置太耐，好多時一開頭都會變得太過creepy，所以你每次都需要暗地裏留意住佢嘅接受性。

 

＃3 最後第三個小貼士就係： 你要明白身體接觸喺分兩種，一種就喺叫明顯嘅touching，另一種就係隱蔽嘅touching。

 

所謂『明顯』，就係一啲擺到明肉眼可以見得到身體觸碰，譬如話你十指緊扣拖住佢隻手。

 

所謂『隱蔽』，就係譬如話你引導佢過馬路嘅時候，你輕輕喺佢背脊伴住佢過馬路。

 

兩者嘅分別，就係通常女人係會較容易畀你做一啲『隱蔽嘅觸碰』，但係你做『明顯嘅觸碰』就要小心啲， 睇錯時機做嘅話你就會攪和成件事。

 

譬如話啱啱識佢無耐，喺餐廳食嘢嘅時候你係唔會無啦啦揸佢屎忽嘅；但係如果你同佢平排坐，你隻手『唔小心』high到佢大髀，好多時佢都唔會即刻反曬面。

 

＃4 Anyway，以上就係你自然地掂女人嘅三個小貼士。

 

總結就係：當巴打以後做escalation嘅時候，記得觀察自己某啲觸碰行為會唔會太快過咗火，並且觀察住囡囡嘅反應從而一步一步升溫。

 

每逢你發現對方唔太舒服唔太enjoy嘅話，就請你馬上停止你嘅行為，唔好等到佢開口叫你停！

 

唔係嘅話，佢嘅感覺就會覺得你好煩好猴擒好痴身，你就會失去之前佢對你擁有嘅興趣！

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

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