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Special back and forth. This is going to be a very sad episode.  I want every brother NOT just listen to the mistakes this young guy make, but FEEL the pain, the low esteem this teen is suffering.

 

J: 情聖先生,我愛上一位女同學,但佢已經有男朋友(聽講),應該點做??請你教我!!!

 

Me: Jimmy, Why did you “fall in love” with her? How did that start?

 

J: I don’t know.

 

Me: Are you in your teens right now? How old are you?

 

J: i’m13 years old ,但佢已經有男朋友(聽講)人哋講笑啫,我識佢阿哥, 佢阿哥話冇乜所謂肯幫下我,我開始撩佢傾計,佢成日都笑住同我講,

 

順便問埋我應該點告白,(我要點先約到佢出嚟)呢樣嘢可唔可以拍學生版,同埋我哋住喺隔離座,thanks

 

唔該問埋最後一樣,我可唔可以做首情歌畀佢??

 

​我個樣有冇問題?

 

Me: Hi Jimmy,

#1 You look totally fine. As a 13 year old, you look quite mature, which is good.

 

#2 DON”T send her a love song, that’s a total nice guy move.

 

#3 The problem now is that you like her TOO QUICKLY before she has proven anything for you. Don’t do any weird things. Don’t 告白 because you know nothing about her personality. Try to talk to her normally and see how things go first.

 

J: thx for your help,我想問有咩話題??點樣撩佢??thx

順便問埋係咪男人唔壞女人唔愛?

我下次見到佢，可唔可以問佢可唔可以畀個機會做佢boyfd

man神,可唔可以搵日約出嚟去MK傾??

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Bro, I gotta be honest with you.

 

From our conversations, I am CERTAIN that your challenge is NOT about getting girls, your challenge is that your self-esteem is so LOW that you are SO desperate to have a girl to like you, to love you and to treat you well.

 

I feel really sad for your situation, I don’t know what has happened to you in the past…

 

But I could tell, for the past 13 years of your life, you had been longing for some feminine gentle love for so long….that you would 做首情歌畀佢, that you would ask her brother for help, that you BEG for a chance from the girl to let you be her bf…

 

I can feel your pain, what is it?

 

How did you grow up in the past?

Did you get enough attention and love from your parents?
What was lacking when you were a kid?

 

I can feel how lonely, lost, empty  you are, what is going on in your life?

 

Right now, I can’t give you any advice because you are in such a vulnerable state.

 

The best thing I would recommend you do is to go through ALL the videos I’ve created for you for FREE.

 

Plus, tell me your story if you want.

 

Otherwise, all the weapons/techniques/skills I teach you will NOT make a damn difference when your PSYCHOLOGY is so shaky and weak.

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Man神，請指點小弟🙏🙏

小弟叫M，而家18歲，做緊文員，而個女仔係19歲，做緊Sales。

 

係大概十日之前，我係Dating App識咗佢，佢同我交換咗電話。我地Keep住都有Whatsapp。

 

到咗幾日前，我就Date咗佢出黎。放工之後，我地去咗一間餐廳食少少野。之後就行去附近啲精品店睇下啲得意嘅野。期間，我有做咗啲觸碰，佢無乜反應，咁我以為應該都算係一個綠燈。

 

行下行下，正當我想拖佢隻手之際，佢縮開咗，咁我就扮無野，繼續傾其他野。行下行下，見到時候都唔早，突然又想食啲野，所以我地就去咗一間糖水鋪度食野。

 

坐低之後，佢突然好嚴肅咁同我講：其實我係鍾意女仔架，佢又俾佢嘅女朋友(對方未確認呢段關係)張相俾我睇。我無正面回應，轉咗傾其他話題。食完糖水，大家就走咗。

 

Man神，其實呢個情況，我係咪已經可以Next得，定係我仲有其他野可以做？求指點。

 

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Glad that you’re taking proactive action despite uncertainty. Although there are many things you did wrong, it’s better than not doing anything.

 

#1 What do you mean by “期間我有做咗啲觸碰”, it sounds like you literally 手臂high 到佢咁。

Most importantly, you said “行下行下，正當我想拖佢隻手之際，佢縮開咗.

Although you did well by not reacting, but it told me that you have NOT YET generated enough sexual tension BEFORE you escalate.

 

The overall feeling of the date feels like boring, ordinary, normal; there’s zero man-to-women sexual CHARGE, no teasing, no heart thumping TENSION, no mysteriousness, no curiosity.

 

That’s why in such a NEUTRAL state, she couldn’t feel attraction & desire enough to start escalation with you or by you.

 

#2 Whether she really likes girls is UNCERTAIN.

She could lie to you because she just wants an excuse to get rid of a guy that she can’t feel attraction to. Plus otherwise she won’t get MATCHED with you in the app and go out a date with you.

 

But it could also be TRUE that she only likes girls, and the reason she went out with you because from DAY 1, she only sees you as a normal sexless friend.

 

Most likely, she just uses that as an EXCUSE to politely reject you and try not to hurt you. Maybe she is telling part of the truth, she likes girls, but she can also be bisexual, liking both men and women.

 

#3 Whether you NEXT her is your choice.

 

You could remain “friends” with her and stay in this sexless FZ that probably will not go anywhere. And if you do that, I would suggest you keeping it light and only invite her to fun group activities occasionally.

 

OR you could cut the losses, let it go, and invest your time/energy in mastering your seduction skills, creating a better lifestyle, and rewarding other girls who appreciate and love you.

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Hi, man .前排無啦啦發現到你個channel，覺得講啲嘢好正，啟發我好多。(跟住落嚟好長，睇曬我會愛死你)

 

我依家係個Dse學生中五，好多人話我幾靚仔，但係身高唔夠170。

=> Congrats on joining the Handsome Guy Family lol

 

我啲大個我既男仔fd話我乸乸地，冇乜主見，做事畏首畏尾，自卑感強，覺得我成日話自己唔得做唔到，可能關我以前成日都同女仔堆玩得好埋，培養咗所謂既雌性力量。

 

我想講既就係曾經我鐘意過個女仔A 2年，開頭果陣時成個小學雞咁好明顯咁追佢chur佢，搞到全級都知，令佢反感。我feel到佢反感之後就冇再搵佢傾偈。

 

同班咗2年。無啦啦我同佢個閨蜜女仔B一次機緣巧合有計傾，傾傾下就一班fd包括女仔A一齊去萬聖節OP，之後就依家組成咗固定組合一齊出去玩。女仔A有攤過牌話唔鐘意我，叫我唔好曬時間。

 

然後我有同過佢第二個閨蜜女仔c曖昧過，開頭對佢冇嘢，純粹fd咁樣撩下佢。之後拖過手，挨過我，果陣時係我第一次同女仔做呢啲行為，之後就可能升溫太快，或者錯既升溫方法，太needy，搞到冇哂神秘感。但係我抽離唔到呢段曖昧關係，可能係因為第一次，直至發掘到死亡之吻果條片，就知自己做咗傻仔，學到衰乜嘢果啲。

 

跟住睇你啲片令我正面咗。我啲女仔朋友都話我陽光咗，包括女仔A。我同女仔A fd咗，有試過同佢1-2-1 date(抱著純FD既心態), 有同佢Snapchat儲火(佢淨係同我一個男仔儲)。

==> 儲火 doesn’t mean shit, do you think she is NOT 儲火 with other dozens of guys or girls?

 

正題嚟啦，有一日女仔A同佢啲閨蜜飲酒，無啦啦打電話俾我話同我講話：女仔A話如果我追多佢一年佢好大機會會受溝，問我要唔要試多次。我既答覆係 唔會。咁我唔容易同佢fd咗，又搞啲情情愛愛呢啲對呢段友情有風險既嘢。

 

但其實我心底裡係有啲心郁郁，但係又唔想做多次傻仔，好掙扎。

 

依家我Snapchat send埋啲無聊嘢，冇人會覆果啲，但係淨係得佢會有時會覆。我覺得我自己依家比嚟件事影響咗我，變唔返以前當佢純fd果種舒適感，搞到成日有時撩佢講嘢都有啲格硬嚟。我依家究竟點算好？

 

如果我要溝返佢(我知唔應該咁focus落一個女仔)，你教既f+c, pushpull, challenge, coldread仲有冇用？(因為呢個對象係比較熟悉既人) 唔該你

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I totally understand how you feel right now. You still like her because she says you’ve changed, and you’re hoping to 溝返佢, but you also don’t want to take risks to lose the friendship, plus you don’t want to look like a fool right?

 

Well, I get it. But based on your description, I have to tell you the TRUTH.

 

＃1 She’s fucking play you bro.

 

She’s trying to frame you as a typical beta loser guy who wastes time to CHASE HER, and if you TAKE IT, you are fucking done while she’s bragging with her friends how CUTE you are or even laughing at your loser behaviors.

 

For another year? WTF? Is she a queen? Is she your boss?

 

She is not giving you a chance to TRY, YOU are giving her a chance to TRY to get you.

 

#2 She is NOT even a fucking friend.

 

If she is a good friend, she won’t manipulating your emotions to suck validation from you, OR playing these mind games with you and ask you to CHASE HER MORE!

 

#3 No techniques/skills are going to help you because your mindset and emotional maturity are fucked up now.

 

– As you said, “我Snapchat send埋啲無聊嘢”, “搞到成日有時撩佢講嘢都有啲格硬嚟”don’t you have better things to do in your life?

 

– For 2 plus years, like an annoying fly surrounding this girl, you have been trying to get this girl to like you multiple times. What does that tell me about your level of attachment to just one person who doesn’t even respect you?

 

#4 My Recommendation: Cut the “friendship” you have with her. The more you spend time with her, the more TORN you are because on one hand you want her attention, but on the other hand you secretly want her to LIKE you as a lover.

 

This is NOT gonna happen until you cut that fucking friendship, CUT all communications, minimize all contacts, create months or a year of vacuum space, and come back with a new fresh attractive personality!

[溝女] 點解溝女認真你便會輸了？

 

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊。

 

今日我想好快教你可以點樣唔依賴你嘅語言都可以溝到你想要嘅女人。

 

如果你有睇好多唔同嘅型男電影，

 

無論係James Bond，Ocean’s 11嘅George Clonney同Brad Pitt，定係Topgun裡面嘅Tom Cruise，

 

好多時你都會見到呢啲型男點樣可以短時間之內，冇咩點樣語言交流嘅情況下都可以色誘到某位女士。

 

#0 點解會出現呢啲神奇嘅情況呢？

 

係咪純粹因為佢哋好靚仔呢？

 

 

究竟佢哋講咗啲乜嘢『神奇句子』令到條女馬上打開雙腳呢？

 

答案就係：正如我一直所講，大部分嘅男女溝通都係非語言，

 

我相信你都聽過其他人講過話人類嘅communication有超過九成都係non verbal。

 

但係你可能唔知道嘅就係，幾乎所有嘅seduction原來都係發生緊係一個非語言嘅層次。

 

咁你可以點樣實質地運用呢樣嘢呢？

 

答案就係：你只需要記住以下兩條重要原則。

 

#1 原則一： 你喺必須透過你嘅身體感受你嘅慾望，去feel下自己嘅desire。

 

好多男人去識女仔或者溝女嘅時候所犯嘅錯誤，就係嘗試去隱藏自己內在嘅sexual desire。

 

如果你咁樣去抑壓自己嘅自然感受，

 

女人就會一係覺得你好creepy因為佢嘅直覺會feel到你好似『有啲野收埋緊／嘗試隱藏』，

 

又或者一係覺得你無乜特別，有啲悶，平平無奇一個正常neutral嘅人咁。

 

你要記住：女人喺同男人一樣咁鍾意做愛，佢都想feel到自己『被撻著鹹濕』嘅一面；

 

而且當佢哋感受到對方對自己嘅desire嘅時候，其實係一種好high嘅感覺，

 

（只要你係以一種尊重，唔係冒犯入侵佢嘅態度就ok）。

 

#2 第二條原則就係： 讓女人去感受到你想要佢嘅能量。

 

意思係：你係唔會透過語言／words去同佢就咁講話：『Yo，你好索呀，我哋去扑嘢囉！』咁乸戇鳩嘅！

 

所謂嘅『直接』，係應該透過非語言嘅途徑去做。

 

好多男人做錯嘅，就係可能會好奇怪地咁樣啤住條女，又或者靜靜雞地暗地裏gup著條女…

 

但係呢啲都係creepy嘅行為，因為所謂嘅creepy，就係當你嘗試唔畀佢發現嘅情況下『欣賞佢』…千祈唔好咁做！

 

相反，你係應該比佢意識到你對佢有性趣，你對佢有sexual interest。

 

譬如話你被佢吸引望住佢嘅時候，你絕對可以一路聆聽佢講嘢期間，

 

一路喺度諗住同自己講話『Wow，佢真係令到我好心動，令到我個心卜卜咁跳。』

 

，透過你的眼神去communicate比佢知你嘅慾望。

 

#3 重點就係：你率先自己去感受果種desire，然後透過眼神交流讓佢感受到你毫不隱藏嘅desire。

 

如果你肯用呢種欣賞佢嘅態度去appreciate佢嘅美態，

 

女人就唔會覺得你對佢嘅性慾望係變態，而你亦都唔需要用口講話『我鍾意你』先至可以吸引到佢。

 

當然你咁樣做唔代表你100%可以溝到佢啦，

 

但係你係透過你嘅vulnerability，話俾佢知道你係有勇氣並且open讓佢知道你對佢嘅興趣；

 

而佢係有自由去睇下自己夠唔夠醒目選擇高價值嘅你。

 

以上就係一啲好多你睇唔到但係男女發生緊嘅誘惑術，

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊。

 

現代約會最大嘅問題係乜嘢呢？ 

 

Tip：It’s in most people’s pockets…

 

Problem = smartphones = distraction

 

No one is paying fucking attention to each other!

 

大部分人都忘記咗咩叫做約會，咩叫做hang out，咩叫做約出嚟玩

 

Presence = Giving complete, and undivided attention to someone else

 

It’s like a modern date is no longer between two people, 200 people!!!

 

點解會發生呢啲咁唔尊重嘅情況呢？

 

=》Not enough men are telling their dates to put their phone away！

 

And today I’m going to teach you how a real man tells a woman to put her phone away in a polite and powerful way

 

#1 Easiest way = to tell her how you feel…

 

『喂喂，我覺得我同你傾偈嘅時候，你喺度玩電話，我唔係幾鍾意呢種感覺。』

 

＃2 狂用電話已經喺一種喺社會氾濫嘅傳染病，所以好多人都唔知道自己中毒幾深。

 

咁所以如果需要嘅話，你可以用另一句同佢講話：

 

『啊，Kary啊，其實同你相處都幾舒服嘅，但係我唔太鐘意我哋出嚟嘅時候，同你其他朋友一齊分享我嘅時間囉。』

 

以上一句係有禮貌並且強勁嘅句子，

 

你係話畀佢知雖然你對佢有興趣，但係如果佢唔能夠集中嘅話你都唔會接受。

 

＃3 最後第三句，亦都係有禮貌地最後警告佢嘅說話，就係同佢講：

 

『啊，你咁忙，不如等你下次熄咗個電話，我哋先再繼續啦。』

 

Boom！

 

呢句句子喺好勁嘅最後通牒，係話畀佢知雖然你對佢有興趣，

 

但係如果佢唔能夠畀full attention你嘅話，你係可以隨時walk away走人，因為你係知道自己嘅時間有幾珍貴。

 

＃4 最後想講嘅就係：我以上教你嘅說話雖然係好有威力，

 

但係如果巴打你唔能夠以身作則，自己又喺度玩電話嘅話，咁樣人哋唔尊重你都係抵你死！

 

咁所以請你記住要lead by example，

 

要記住你自己首先唔好玩電話，你先至有資格邀請其他人唔好咁做。

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

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Gordon：MAN神我近排成日遇到一個問題。

 

我鐘意的女仔唔係成日同我見面，所以佢好少主動聯絡。

 

但既然我要吸引佢的話，唔主動showup 聯絡佢，又點可以吸引到佢呢？

 

如果我不斷wtsapp佢，即使我試著唔去理會介意佢的感受，重視自愛，又會唔會show到自己太needy呢？謝謝

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#1 First, what I hear now is that the problem is NOT that you don’t know how to contact her,

 

the real problem is WHY isn’t she interested/attracted enough to find an “excuse” to talk to you.

 

If a girl is interested in you, they often will find an “excuse” to let you know that they’re paying attention to you – whether via whatsapp, IG, SC etc.

 

So what concerns me now is that right now, she has ALREADY put you in a sexless platonic friendzone.

 

You’re not even her close FZ, otherwise she will be at least chatting with you on a regular basis.

 

#2  If you want to ATTRACT them passively, you gotta do 2 things.

– Build a REAL active social life where you can take a lot of pics and videos

 

– Then POST them in your FB/IG to let girls passively invest a bit of time/energy on you.

 

When you do these right, you will discover that they often will find “excuse” to PM/DM you about some stuff, and from there you can start chatting.

 

#3 Yes, in this situation, if you persists on whatsapping her, that’s only showing your neediness.

What you are communicating is all beta-male bahviors:

– You have so much time to waste on her = you don’t have a fvcking life apart from you

– You are so eager to get her attention i.e. chasing

– You are so desperate to get her out = Don’t you have any women in your life?

 

Although dating doesn’t mean you sit at your room, being passive and doing nothing,

 

the best way to meet girls in a high value way is that you ARE DOMINATE YOUR PATH,

 

doing stuff that EXCITES YOU,

 

and “it just happens that you meet her along the way”.

 

And if she is cool, you invite her out for social stuff for further qualification, in case you haven’t done much at the first contact.

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

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Manson!  我有問題！

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我地所host嘅活動係咪一定要雙方都有好大興趣？

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攞個example就應該明白！

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我對唱K興趣不大，但我喜歡認識中意唱歌嘅女仔，

 

我係唔係姐係要be active去搞一啲follow人地其他女仔feel interested嘅活動？

 

定係我要再host一個brand-new嘅idea去suit自己？

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仲有另一方面嘅疑問：

 

我對野外活動嘅興趣好大，但係我冇法子從目前生活圈中認識有呢種興趣嘅人，我要點樣起步？

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It maybe naive but that’s my question

Thx， Alex

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Alex,

 

In the long term, you do want to find people with similar interests, hobbies, mindsets and passions.

 

That’s a more sustainable social group because neither of you are accommodating oneself to do stuff you don’t like.

 

Compatibility is an important element if you’re looking for something long term, especially a girlfriend.

 

However, in the short term where you’re training your social skills,

 

it’s okay to do both to allow yourself meet more new people and discover what kind of personality/character you like or not.

 

After a while, you’ll feel what resonates with YOU the most and have more clarity what you truly want.

 

 

P.S. Sometimes we may slowly find interest in stuff we used NOT to like.

 

To me, I used to HATE singing K because I didn’t like my voice.

 

But now, I LOVE it because I started to know how to project my voice better, and girls complimented on my singing and fun attitude lol

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想請教你一d問題！ 我同C小姐相識十年， 中學曾經喺埋一齊幾個月！ 最近兩年先聯絡返！

 

我個心儀對象C小姐最緊同男朋友分手， 佢哋喺埋一齊咗接近三年！

 

係佢主動飛左男仔！ 佢話個男仔經常望其他女，望足幾秒！ 因為呢個原因經常吵架！

 

琴日佢去男朋友屋企執曬嘢走，晚上佢約咗我， 喺我樓下公園跑步！

 

大部分時間都係講佢男朋友啲衰嘢， 佢仲教我點樣追女仔！

 

跑完步我順便送佢返屋企， 當日嘅凌晨佢瞓唔著， 打咗畀我，

 

約我下個月去旅行( 之前曾經同佢講過我想去旅行，但冇人陪)，

 

但係唔單止我哋兩個， 仲有佢媽媽同細路都會去！

 

唔清楚佢對我有無好感？ 處女座好難捉摸！

 

同佢whatsapp，佢經常隔1－2個鐘先覆我！

 

請問Man神，如果想追返佢有冇咩方法？

Thank you !

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#1 To be honest,  if she’s angry because ” 佢話個男仔經常望其他女，望足幾秒 ” , then she is a very immature and insecure girl that you probably shouldn’t get close with.

 

#2 It seems that she is treating you as a GOOD FRIEND, and your behaviors are more like a good friend than a potential sexual partner/bf.

 

#3 Stop using the word ” 追”, it fvcks up everything.

 

Watch these for reference:

 

點解同女仔表白等於自殺？

 

男仔應該幾時表白!?

 

點解追女仔等於自殺？

 

#4 Stop being needy, ” 隔1－2個鐘先覆我” is such a normal thing.

 

#5 You can’t “get her as a gf” if she’s seeing you as a friend.

 

Let me ask you, what’s your current social life like?

 

How many other girls are you seeing?

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊。

你都知道對住女人講一啲pickup lines係唔work嘅，

 

但係你又可以做啲乜嘢，聽到你所講嘅嘢可以stand out／突出自己呢？

 

好簡單嘅一個方法：

 

就係如果你真心想稱讚囡囡嘅時候，你就一定要記得去稱讚一啲嗰條女獨有／unqiue嘅特質。

 

譬如話：

 

如果你對住佢講話：

 

『OMG，你把髮真係好靚，我淨係見到你喺度撥頭髮，我都已經扯曬旗…』，

 

你係呢世都唔使旨意溝到佢。lol

 

原因就係：女人雖然想男人覺得佢sexy，

 

但係佢更加想個男人係覺得佢夠SPECIAL夠特別， 係比起其他所有女人更能夠以獨特／unique嘅性感令到你扯旗。

 

咁所以當你想稱讚女人嘅時候，又或者share你嘅感受嘅時候，

 

記住你所講嘅嘢都盡量唔好係一啲copy and paste，可以套用喺其他女人身上，好旱嘅說話。

 

譬如你可以話：

 

『啊，雖然同你傾咗一陣計，

 

但係我覺得你係一個充滿正能量做嘢有passion嘅人。

 

幾好呀呢樣嘢，因為我超唔鍾意啲日日淨係識得喺度投訴放負嘅人囉。』

 

你咁樣講嘅話，

 

除咗係讚佢一啲內在嘅特質之後，

 

你更加係透露緊你自己揀人嘅standards，

 

你亦都係同時暗地裡篩選緊佢，一舉幾得！

 

今集就係咁精簡啦，鍾意今集嘅話就like，

 

留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！