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如果巴打你想我親自聆聽你嘅問題，提供更詳盡嘅兩性策略畀你嘅話， 你可以報名加入我哋MTFU Insider嘅大家庭，因為你喺裡面喺可以得到我為你度身訂做嘅訓練課程，讓你得到所有關於溝女／約會／性愛／感情嘅全方位支援。
你有興趣嘅話，就腥email去support@manthefvckup.com 索取詳情啦。
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Anson Toh: Hey there , I’ve been watching your youtube channel for around 2-3 mths & find that the skills you talk about is useful & hope that your channel gonna grows bigger than ever .
I am a chinese i speak cantonese but can’t read chinese , so im typing this in english , sorry for any inconvenience caused .
Well here’s the question , there is a girl i get to know few months ago, 3 days after she gets my number ,she started to text me & she seems interested on me & flirt with me , at that time I didn’t really feel like wanna start a relationship as i’m enjoying my single life well , so I told her that I only treat her as a BFF , that time she still told me that how bad i am for friendzoning her .
Few months had passed we text & facetime like nearly everyday “initiated by her” , doing fun activity together ,go out to lunch , movie .etc , even had sex for quite sometimes .
She cared about what i’m doing , when i’m stressed & down she would came & comfort me .etc , well my heart is literally melted by her caring by this time .
I felt that its time for me to confess to her so i did , but she had turned me down & says she need to consider 1st as she is looking into a serious relationship , so I didn’t force her & just let it go with the flow .
I treat her real good onwards , spending time with her ,care about her like she was already my GF .
But recently she had goes cold on me suddenly , didn’t reply my text doesn’t facetime with me & when i’m calling her to ask what had happen she says nothing had happen ,She said she was busy but i knew she had off day & was totally free but she just don’t wanna let me know .
Why a relationship in this hot temperature can get ice cold so sudden ?
I feel that i might had encountered a player & get played , but I truly feel for her already it’s quite hurting to me ,i’m totally lost now , can you please advice what I had done wrong & what should I do now ?
I may have written too long , but to let you know more on the details i gotta write it in this way . Sorry for any inconvenience caused . Thanks & Regards。
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Anson巴打，雖然你冇寫你幾多歲，但係我相信你應該喺處於20幾未夠30歲嘅位置，而你嘅行為其實整體做得ok嘅。但係有好幾點要補充，就係：
＃1 你話一齊出去食飯睇戲做嘢等等，究竟呢啲行為係你哋搞咗嘢之前已經開始做？定係搞完嘢之後先至咁做呢？
因為如果你同佢未搞野，就咁快做埋呢啲好似男女朋友行為嘅事情嘅話，你同佢相處嘅次序係有錯誤，係會有可能影響大家關係嘅expectation，最後fvck up成件事。
＃2 另一樣嘢就係，假設你同佢好地地大家輕輕鬆鬆開開心心搞下嘢出嚟玩下，點解你無啦啦要所謂confess your feelings／表白，無啦啦將成個關係主導權供奉畀條女呢？
你咁樣做就係正正犯下最大嘅兩性錯誤，因為就算你想要一段排他性嘅拍拖關係，你係絕對唔可以同條女表白問佢可唔可以做男女朋友；
喺呢一個關鍵位，無論如何都係要條女自己去主動提出，並且有一種懇求你成為佢男朋友嘅感覺。
你攞唔到呢一個籌碼嘅話，就算條女答應，你之後都會絕對畀條女掌握著大權去操控你，而真正愛你嘅女人亦都唔想咁樣去做領導嘅角色。
＃3 最後最重要嘅就係，當你失敗咗之後你仍然無條件地對佢好，其實係暗示咗你係一個冇脊骨，冇底線，唔識得後退懲罰女人『差劣行為』嘅暖男。
你開始變得憂慮needy，開始失去自信心過份著緊自己係咪做錯事激嬲條女，一系列嘅依戀行為開始令條女揭穿你Beta嘅底牌；
所以佢咪會對你大打折扣，失去之前嘅吸引力，對你狠心冷淡囉！
＃4 無論呢條女係咪玩家都好，其實每一個遇上Beta廢男嘅女人，佢哋都係有能力好似變色龍咁樣即刻變色，出現呢種你覺得係好愕然冰冷嘅行為。
但係如果你有睇開MTFU一段時間嘅話，你就會知道呢啲只係女人其中一種天生嘅特性，只係佢哋遇上弱雞廢男時，會出現嘅無情行為。
只要你以後唔好重犯我以上所講嘅錯誤嘅話，你就唔會誘發到佢哋呢種毒性發作！
Anyway巴打，今集嘅溝女Q＆A告一段落啦；
如果你有send問題嚟但係我仲未答你嘅話，請你見諒；因為小弟現時實在太多其他公務需要處理，每個星期只能夠解答一兩條youtube或者email上嘅問題。
如果你真係需要緊急援助嘅話，你係可以考慮加入我哋Insider嘅兄弟幫，因為我同所有內部兄弟每一日都會有聯絡，直接解答佢哋溝女兩性嘅困難；
咁所以其他有興趣想盡快收到答案嘅巴打，請你send email去 support@manthefvckup.com 查詢關於加入Insider嘅詳情喇！
最後，你覺得今集有價值鍾意嘅話，就請你Like呢段片，訂閱我地MTFU嘅channel並且分享出去喇，因為你嘅支持喺能夠幫到我哋成長，繼而製造更多價值比你。
有咩問題，就下面留言比我知啦，我哋下集再見！