Bro, do you believe that “everyone always have someone in the world” and it is upon FATE for him to meet and fall in love with her?
Or do you believe that you will intuitively know when you meet your SOULMATE and you & this ONE PERFECT GIRL is going to belong to each other no matter what happens?
Well, if you have similar beliefs, I’m sorry to tell you that you are living in a over-romanticized fake world created by romantic novels/Disney cartoons/Hollywood stories/music lyrics/online dating sites promise/religious ideologies that are NOT based on reality.
#1 This idea of “Mr. Right/ Mrs. Right” implies that there is only ONE person in the world perfectly compatible for you, and you should spend a lifetime in search of this “perfect soulmate” in order to be “happily living everafter”.
Sadly and heartbreakingly, that’s a lie.
There is no “one person” that you can merge with perfectly. No girls will be your perfect woman, and you won’t be girls’ perfect man.
There are only GOOD ones and BAD ones. And there are a fvck ton of “special girls” who can be GOOD to you or BAD add-on to your life.
#2 Do you feel sad, heart-broken or even angry that there will NEVER be a perfect one for you?
That’s okay because that’s a legitimate emotion when you discover that the real world is NOT the same as you were told.
But if you feel stuck and want to cling to the lie of “one soulmate”,
understand this dependency on ONE person is going to fvck up your psychology and ultimately your happiness & life.
Because when you are so DEPENDENT on the person “you’re supposed to be in love with”, you feel sad & meaningless when you don’t meet them…
OR when you think “you’ve met them”, you will SETTLE and STAY in a shitty harmful relationship that isn’t good for you and you fear of losing THE ONE.
#3 The point is: DO NOT idealize or romanticize any kinds of relationships you have with women.
When you mistakenly believe there’s only ONE PERFECT GIRL in the world, you will BLIND YOURSELF and overinvest your life into an IMAGE that is never based on reality.
The truth is: One, there are MANY women that could be compatible with you and can be good for you. (and of course many bad women you should avoid)
Two, so called “good women” can be created by intelligent selection, how you FRAME the initial relationship and how you SHAPE her over time to become even more “compatible to you”.
#4 Of course these are advanced concepts I teach my guys inside our Insider community, but for now just understand…
Never fear that “this ONE girl may go away OR I may lose this perfect girl” because the day you are afraid to lose a girl is the day you ACTUALLY have already lost the girl.
Some deep mindfvck wisdom here, swallow it again if you don’t understand.