If you are the kind of guy who “falls in love” too quickly, you gotta be careful because you can easily waste time/energy/effort/heartfelt feelings on some TOXIC people you shouldn’t touch.
One of the best ways to build healthy relationships is to understand the WARNING SIGNS of bad candidates, here are some:
#1 If she talks about her ex too NEGATIVELY, she still carries an emotional baggage.
It means she isn’t emotionally ready for a new r/p and you shouldn’t sacrifice your well-being to try to be nice and fix her.
#2 She is 斤斤計較 of the contributions you two make.
E.g. If she did nice things for you BUT blames you for not returning favors, OR if she is always calculating who contributes more, that’s a bad person to keep around with.
#3 She uses sex/intimacy to control you.
E.g. If you make dinner/buy me a bag/help me do this do that, then we’ll have sex/we’ll kiss. -> That’s fvcking manipulative!
#4 She is physically abusive
If she tries to hit you seriously or throw things at you, she is a crazy problematic girl that you can’t fix, LEAVE ASAP!
#5 She never apologizes
People who can’t apologize for their wrongdoings implies that they have 玻璃心 and are emotionally volatile. Be careful!
#6 She suffocates you OR guilt you into spending more time with her
Girls who are low self-esteem feels insecure to give you space in a relationship. If she refuses to give you some autonomy, end the r/p.
#7 She wants to micromanage your life
If she tries to control every little thing of what you do or what you don’t do, she is someone who can’t maintain healthy boundaries.
If she can’t trust your ability to make decisions, you won’t have a great r/p with her.
=> These principles applies to both men/women, if you have a partner, you should honestly evalue if she is truly compatible to you => long term happiness