月份: 2019 年 1 月

I am sure you have heard from your friends, parents or even women advice that “as long as you just be confident, girls will like you…”

But WTF is being confident actually mean?

#1 Well, I once taught that you need to be having FUN in your own life and being a CHALLENGE prize girls want to win over, and that worked very well.

However, I noticed that a few bros sometimes misuse the advice,

and they start to act too inchy, too cool, too indifferent that they seem like using those techniques to overcompensate their lack of security.

So let me today make it even more simple to follow so that you won’t seem like trying too hard.

#2 In short, the so-called confidence many women tell you is actually just this simple thing…

It means that you already ASSUME that she wants you and you have a FRAME that interprets everything she says/does as to mean “She is trying to win you over!”

#3 So you caught her looking at you? Damn she likes me…

She touches you in any shape or form? Damn, she is trying to get me hot and want to fvck…this little dirty girl…

She teases you? Haha, that little devil is flirting with me…

She isn’t texting you? I knew it, she is playing hard to get…

She giving you shit tests? Fantastic, she is feeling the sexual tension and she wants to see if I am an Alpha…

#4 This is the so-called confidence that women find sexy.

When you can ASSUME her interest on you,

you win half of the battle already because most guys condition themselves to assume the worst and their default is to look for approval/permission to act.

Fvck that shit!

Develop this “I knew she wants me” frame of mind and you will exude so much confidence that you never need confirmation from a girl that she likes you.

This is the secret trick that will help you in the long run!

Bro, if you have been watching MTFU’s videos and studying our free content, you should understand that sexual desire and love are 2 different powerful emotions.

Without sexual desire, women won’t genuinely want to fuck you even if she stays with you.

Without love, some women will continue sleeping with you even when you are an asshole that hurts her.

So when you understand that this human dilemma that we both want separateness to feel aroused and closeness to feel love, how can we make a woman become obsessed with us ethically?

#1 Firstly, let’s revise this core concept:

If you want her feel aroused, you must master creating sexual tension.

ST is the magic ingredient when she feels both excitement and fear when she is with you, because she knows that you are a potential mate.

So that primal sexual excitement will make her want to get fvcked by you to allow her to reproduce.  

So your job as a man is to grow that ST until she can’t resist that feeling of lust.

#2 As long as you intend to leave her better than you found her, how can you truly make her fall for you?

Well, once you have made her feel attracted & aroused, you need to create OBSTACLES for her to truly fall in love with you!

Why?

Because in every romance novel women are addicted to, the storyline is ALWAYS that the woman overcome obstacles to find, win the heart of, and marry the ONE MAN who is right for her!

If you want a girl addicted to you,

it is your duty to create difficulties/ challenges/ uncertainties for her to overcome even when she feels attraction to you.

#3 Why do Romeo and Juliet/Titanic/梁山伯與祝英台/嫦娥與后羿 are the most romantic stories in human history?

It is because there are OBSTACLES, challenges between the man and the woman that prevent them to be together, and women WANT THAT kind of story in their lives!

The point is if you can create a context in which the girl put more effort to win you over,

she will naturally justify herself that she likes you and she will slowly fall in love with you, as long as you maintain that arousal and attraction.

Obstacle is the way.

The Q is are you being that challenging yet attainable guy or are you being too easy?

One of the common challenges guys face is that they meet a pretty girl that is exactly their type, they got her # and meet her 1-2 times thinking everything went well…

tried to get her out again but now she loses interest to respond to him or doesn’t feel like to meet him again.

Why did she lose interest and how can we reignite her interest in us? That’s what we will talk about today.

#1 Firstly understand: Using logic to explain women’s behaviors rarely work.

The only way to attract women is by making her FEEL certain emotions,

making her feel that you are a free, independent, confident, passionate man who loves himself and having fun in his reality.

So the first step is to EXAMINE how your previous behaviors might made her think that you are the beta provider guy.

Did you overinvest and try to do her favors like a frd?

Did you try to agree with her on stuff you disagree with just to be smooth and hope to get laid?

Were you too eager/enthusiastic/available to communicate/see her?

See how you fvcked up and you’ll notice the failure patterns.

#2 The second counterintuitive thing is to understand that you reignite her interest by putting yourself back as the center of your focus, instead of putting her as your focus.

Women want a guy who is passionate about his life,

who feels good about himself,

who is already having FUN enjoying his life,

who is actively pursuing things he loves to do,

who has a mission/purpose to dominate every day.

Most guys fvck up because once they start to get a woman, they stopped doing the things that made him attractive at the first place and started to focus all his attention on her.

Thus, in order to get her back, you must ensure  your foundations are in place.

#3 Finally, you should have known this:

Women want to see you having other girls desiring you so that she can compete for you!

Women want to see you having other girls desiring you so that she can compete for you!

A big reason why you are so concerned with “a girl losing interest” is because you don’t have enough options.

Therefore, when you drop all the options you once had just for some girls you have just met for a few times, naturally your attractiveness will drop.

So stop limiting yourself with a scarcity mindset, explore the market and always make yourself an object of desire.

If you do just these 3 things, not only this girl but multiples girls will continue to DESIRE YOU!

Bro, do you realize that what women THINK they want or what they SAY they want is 99.9% never what they ACTUALLY want in their behaviors?

Do you know that science has discovered that narcissists are attractive to women because of their delusional confidence?

#1 Well, according to some British researches in a paper <Should have known better>,

they found that “women wishing to get married were more attracted to the narcissistic male personality than those not desiring marriage.”

This means that all women, whether single or not, just CAN”T resist narcissistic bad boys. They just can’t out-logic themselves to prevent feeling attraction.

So if you want to get girls, forget what women tell you verbally, just trigger the right emotions for them to FELL.

#2 In the study, researchers found that women agree with statements like “Confidence in a male is more alluring than modesty;”

“Male vanity is an attractive attribute;” and “I am attracted to men who take pleasure in being the center of attention.”

Although these don’t sound political correct, you should now understand why some self-centered assholes just keep getting girls …

it is because they have BALLS to pull the trigger and get shit done.

#3 Now you may ask WHY women are attracted to male narcissists?

Well, it is because they are seen as higher status man with “the ability to acquire resources, and that they are entertaining and self-assured.”

So whether you like the truth, if you wanna attract girls,

you have to more self-centered, more self-loving, care yourself more than her, and be more self-entertaining THAN YOU THINK YOU SHOULD BE or how the political correct society tells you to be!

Attraction/Arousal is NOT about being a moral virtuous man, it is about being flexible enough to be “display bad boy qualities” even if you are a good-hearted man.

The Q is: If you want more girls, are you going to stop being so Vanilla, so tight and upright, and thus so fvcking boring!?

Hey bro, I have received some Qs in the past regarding how to help your fellow bros you care about with dating.

This is very interesting because as you learn more from MTFU about not chasing girls, most of your old friends are still staying in the old traditional way of chasing women.

Maybe they do have some success once for a while, or maybe they even have a GF/SP longer faster than you in the past, but you just know that they are doing things wrong even on the surface they are more “successful” than you.

So, how can we help our friends when you know they are entering a trap?

#1 NEVER try to help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.

When ppl don’t feel enough pain, or are just happy repeating their old habits, their minds are NOT open enough to receive new knowledge.

Anything that contradicts their current beliefs are going to be deleted, that’s called the confirmation bias/確認偏誤。

No matter how hard you try, they are just not going to listen and forcing help can hurt your friend.

“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. Don’t help them until they are ready to receive it.

#2 Let your own actions/results speak louder than words.

NEVER point fingers to your friends that what they are doing are WRONG.

Because whenever we directly reject others, they are going to act defensive and they will FIGHT your ideas.

Understand: In their current model of the world, they think what they are doing is right. They are doing “what they think is best” based on what they know from society.

So when you say they are wrong, it feels like telling some religious ppl that God doesn’t exist. They either think you are crazy or speaking alien language.

So just do your own thing and let your results speak for themselves. Whether they decide to join you is up to them, don’t force it.

#3 In conclusion, everyone has their own path/lessons they need to go through.

Give them the freedom to fvck up a relationship,

give them the freedom to experience the pain of breakup or being cheated,

give them the freedom to waste money on girls and get divorced at 50…

When they hit rock bottom and they put up their hand for help, only then should you give them a hand to uplift them.

If you want to save the world, save yourself first and make yourself NOT a liability – health, relationships, wealth !

Hey brother are you insecure that you don’t have a car or a house right now?

OR are you scared about the fact that girls may know that you might not have a JOB now and still looking for employment?

If you have such fear of being exposed or fear of being unsuccessful, and you think you can’t get girls at such state, then you are operating at a BETA mindset.

#1 Listen, I know what you are thinking:

You think you can’t PROVIDE FOR the girls you like, you think girls will see you are an unstable loser, you think you have nothing to show off to girls in order to make her like you.

If you believe those are the keys to open women, then you are only half correct BECAUSE those “good citizen”qualities are useful in long term mating strategy.

#2 In long term mating, of course women want a guy who is rich enough to provide her with stuff and make her feel safe.

Of course women want an emotionally stable guy who is predictable and don’t want too much drama in her family that hurt her offsprings.

Of course women want you to be a “good guy” to support her own goals.

But the very politically incorrect truth is that women don’t give a fvck about these beta qualities when she was young, sexy partying and wanted to explore her best sexual options!  

#3 So what does all these mean to you?

One, when you display enough Alpha qualities and increase your sexual value, you can be a broke jobless carless surfer who is just chilling and still get a ton of women sucking you.

Two, the meaning of cars/houses/jobs only mean what you think they mean.

It could mean you are a fvcking loser and don’t deserve women.

It could mean you are a fvcking loser but know how to game women.

But it could also mean you don’t buy into the traditional bullshit script that 90% ppl follow and you are building an alternative exciting entrepreneurial life that most people don’t dare to do, AND you know you deserve women.

#4 But the Q is brother, how would you FRAME your current situation?

CM below and let me know your thoughts. 🙂

One of the most common fears guys tell me is that they think “你的樣子如何你的日子也必如何”, so they think they can never get girls because they have average looks.

I am not gonna lie, your fashion/style/sexiness DOES matter because first impression lasts. Look at how thirsty women are when they got a chance to touch A&F models.

But does that really mean average looks = lonely forever? And do you know why you are force fed this idea of “Your face your fate”?

Can you see how believing into such bullshit is going to affect your mindset, action and results in life? CM below and let know your thoughts.

So if you ask me, I’d say fvck YFYF because there are certain things you can do to drastically increase your chance.

#1 If you are really worried, then get your ass out and change what you can.

Let’s face this, if you dress like like a dirty beggar OR like a safe boring vanilla good boy, that is NOT going to arouse women.

Arousal of women is based on TENSION, so your style needs to conveys edginess +I am not fvcking average. If your presentation conveys “I am safe and risk-averse”, that will NOT spark attraction.

So always upgrade your haircut, your style that is not based on fashion but timeless good-looks, your body type, your smell, your skin, your body type.

Those are the easy things that you can DO to change ppl’s perception.

#2 Whatever beliefs you keep telling yourself or excuses you keep using , you are going to live in such reality.

Once you have taken ACTION to change the external and stop behaving like a keyboard poison kid, then you gotta take charge of your self-talk.

Because when you repeat a story in your brain, your mind are going to focus on finding evidence that only support that belief and reject evidence that doesn’t support that.

This is called Confirmation bias 確認偏誤。

#3 So knowing that our brain has a tendency to 選擇性地回憶, why don’t you use that bias to HELP YOURSELF?

Assuming you HAVE taken action to change your style/body/external factors, you SHOULD create a new story like “I love how girls love how sexy I am.””Women just love how hot I am and they want me to talk to them. ”

Instead of being biased against the -ve factors about yourself, you can use the same tool to be biased FOR the +ve factor about yourself.

I agree that good-looks, especially for women, have tremendous effects on how people judge you. And I also agree that sometimes you may overestimate your hotness.

But if nothing change, you now at least have the BALLS to pull the fucking trigger and say hi to the girls you have always scared to meet.

Doesn’t this just simple act increase your success with women?