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Bros, we’ve talked a TON about how not to fall into the friend zone and why once women see you as “frd”, it’s almost impossible for her to want to fvck you.

So the best way to get out of FZ, is always NOT putting yourself into the FZ from Day 1 and stop lying that “you only want to be frds with her”.

However, do you know why WOMEN LOVE to have male friends to surround them even though she will never be sexually interested in them?

#1 Yes, you’ve watched MTFU for a while and you’ve grown smart… It’s because females CRAVE ATTENTION like bees crave honey…

the more attention they get personally or from society, the more self-worth and happy she feels about herself.

That is exactly why when women tell you “to let’s just be friends OR i am not ready for a relationship OR I haven’t gotten over my ex OR I love you as my older brother”,

that is an attempt to offer you a useless sexless friendship where you’ll continue to pay attention/care about her WHILE she doesn’t do shit in return for you (i.e. never give you sex that you want).

#2 So bro, NEVER try to prove yourself to be a perfect BF material in order to prove that you are “good enough” to take care of her…hoping that one day she will happily fvck you.

No, this will NOT happen. Don’t be an emotionally supportive Beta who listens to her complaints about the Alpha she craves to fvck.

If you still think “we should be friends first, then we will transition to bg/gf lover relationship”, I guarantee you will be single for the rest of your life.  

#3 Why?

It’s because if you attended our 7-day free course,

you know that attraction requires TENSION, and the feeling of tension is a bit uncomfortable and nervous, and such feeling is necessary for intimacy to happen.

If everything is familiar, comfortable, friendly, warm, that feeling is NOT seduction and she won’t feel the urge to have sex with you.

#4 Now that you understand the real purpose of friendship in women’s eyes,

do you know why men and women CANNOT be real friends, OR can’t be as friend as their same sex?

Yes, you’re right again. It’s because it doesn’t fvcking make sense.

One, let’s be honest here, men don’t make friends with ugly chicks. So all chicks men try to befriend are those he tries to fvck.

if you think that by staying friends with her, you can fvck her one day? I’ve already explained why that doesn’t work, so stop fvcking waste your time doing stupid impossible shit.

Two, male-friends are way better than female-friends.

You can talk in a rational way that makes sense, you both like what guys like to do/play, you both can open up to talk deep dirty shit and you don’t need to worry “if I will make a bad impression on this girl”,

and most importantly, a good bro can be a trustworthy soldier that you can fight with, he helps you kick ass in life instead of worrying to save a defenseless bitch.

Three, assume that a girl tries to FZ you but you reject the offer and walk away. This implies that you are confident and have enough options to fvck that friendship offer.

You know she’s using you to gain attention but you refused. This tells the girl that you are actually a valuable PRIZE that other women want, and you don’t give a fvck about her decision. Because of such action, this girl might doubt her decision or even wants you back one day.

So ask yourself now: Do I suck with women because I have too few female friends?

OR because I have too few male friends but too many female friends who are wasting your time and never fvck you?

Comment below and let me know!

For the past 2 years, I have received a lot of emails or DMs from bros all over the world telling me that they have understood women so much more, and some of them even got the girls they want within a few months time.

However, as you know, getting a girl is just like secondary school game. The real game starts when you decide to KEEP the girl for a longer period of time.

So some bros start to ask me “how can they maintain an Alpha upper position during a bf/gf relationship or even marriage?”

#1 Well, before we go into this, there’s a foundation you must build:

One, you always let women push for a relationship with you instead of you trying to get into a r/p.

You should enjoy non-committed r/ps as much as possible for as long as possible until she feels the URGENCY to secure you. Until that issue is brought up by her, don’t push.

Two, you should keep the non-committed status for at least 6 months before you jump into anything committed. FBI uses roughly 2 years to observe a person so even when you’re in a r/p, you should NOT make any serious decisions with her during that period.

#2 Assuming you’ve done these, understand: Women’s desires on a guy or sex frequency oftens declines after a committed relationship is formed because there is no more urgency for her to fvck you.

Meaning: Assuming you’re an Alpha, when you’re single and uncommitted, women feel that you must have a lot of options around so she feels a need to use sex to qualify herself in exchange of an Alpha’s approval and attention.

#3 However, after a committed relationship in secured, women now feel that you’ve committed to her (as a bf/husband), so there’s less URGENCY to use sex to EARN your validation.

If you understand this basic simplified concept, you will understand why so many once-Alpha males start to become betas …

because these betas start to lose their power frame, do shit stuff their gf/wife asks them to do, tries to avoid arguments, keep peace and compromises their self-interest…just to hope that his gf/wife can give them sex at night.

#4 So my intelligent MTFU fans, can you now guess how to maintain upper hand in a relationship?

Ans: To continue gain that dominant power and respect from her, you must continue put your interests first AND do NOT let her pussy control your decisions.

#5 Rmb: 有西唔代表有say, you must always be the attractive man other women want to fvck EVEN when you are in a r/p.

So you must take care of your physicality, continue to conquer your career/mission, continue to be a high status social guy surrounded by women,

continue to increase your personal value so that your gf/wife can directly/indirectly see that other women still want to compete for you AND you always have the option to NEXT HER when she doesn’t behave well.

#6 That’s how you always become the AUTHORITY of the relationship and train your main girl to behave well, eager to fvck you, treat you like king and remain loyal to you.

If you have any personal problems about your dating life or relationship that you want me to help solve,

feel free to book a coaching call with me to talk about your personal issue, or join our premium Insider community where you will get all the trainings, coaching and skills you need to become an Alpha, not just in dating but also in your work life.

That’s the only 2 places right now where I personally address a particular problem you have. If you’re interested, send an email to us.

Bros, do think that those who have girls/gfs/married now are the Alphas and those who are single are Betas?

Well, if you do, then you have fallen into one the of most common mistakes of understanding sexual dynamics because the terms “Alphas” and “Betas” actually describe the mindset and behaviors of how you interact with women,

NOT whether you have women around (or whether you are a rich famous handsome celebrity who seems to have many girls e.g. Justin Bieber, Prince Harry, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos).

So to assist you in understanding, I’ll share with you some common qualities a beta guy have so that you know if your current belief system is Alpha or Beta:

– Beta believes in romantic ideas, he always tries to find “his one soulmate” and tries to cling to one girl once he thinks he found her.

– Beta loves to support his chick and sacrifices his self-interest for her. He believes that’s what “real man” do and such sacrifice of self will exchange her love, loyalty and desire for sex.

– Beta wants to be a hero, he wants to “save a girl from her problems”, so he is eager to listen to her shit and help her solve problems

– Beta doesn’t mind to stay platonic friends with hot girls, he continues to give her attention/care in such friendship, he listens to her complaints about her bad bf, the reason is always he secretly hopes that one day “she will choose him”

– Beta has ALWAYS been loyal to girls, even before they start any relationships. He thinks that it’s “not good/unethical” to date multiple girls so he invests all of his energy/time/effort to get one girl at a time because he thinks anything other than monogamy is BAD.

– Beta AUTOMATICALLY respects women just because she is a woman, he does not screen and qualify women to see which women actually DESERVE & EARN his respect.

– Beta believes that open communication is the key to a successful relationship. They believe that women are rational human beings who say “exactly what she means” and disregards her contradictory behaviors. They use LOGIC to determine what she wants, tries to satisfies that, and expects she will then give what he wants.

– Beta believes he needs to “think/talk/behave like a girl” and stands on her side in order to attract her. He believes “rapport/harmony/common interests” with girls make girls interested in them.

– Beta tries to stand out by “I am not like most (bad/superficial) guys” and hopes the girl will choose him.

– Beta doesn’t mind long distance r/ps with girls because he believes that if he can be patient and wait for a girl to come back, the whole thing will be super romantic like a novel, she will be very touched and eventually comes back to him.

– Beta settles in a relationship. He is so scared of being alone/lonely in the future so he quickly clings to the only-girl who expresses interest in him and tries to get into a relationship asap so as to avoid “a potential loss if he doesn’t secure a r/p with her.”

– Whenever there’s conflict clash/arguments between a male and female, beta AUTOMATICALLY tries to shame the man or help defend the woman, (especially if she is hot), without paying attention to the facts of the issue.

So these are 12 common traits of having a beta mindset in regards to women, how many traits have you scored so far?

Now that you are aware of your current belief system, you might need help to eliminate these toxic beta mindset imposed on you by society.

If you need help, you can either book a coaching call with me to talk about your personal issue,

or join our premium Insider community where you will get all the trainings, coaching and skills you need to become an Alpha, not just in dating but also in your work life.

That’s the only 2 places right now where I personally address a particular problem you have. If you’re interested, send an email to us.

Bros, have you wondered why even you know the principles how to game girls, you still find it psychologically hard to date multiple girls?

Or even when you have options, you seem to have a tendency to “fall in love” immediately with just ONE girl and then get into a “serious long term r/p” too prematurely?

#1 Well… the cold hard truth why you tend to settle for a 6-7 marks girls instead of remaining single until you get a 8 or above girls … is because you are so fucking afraid of “being lonely” as a single man.

You are so uncomfortable with being alone, you don’t allow yourself to be alone, and you feel that your life is incomplete without some women to talk to (even when she is NOT sb truly arouses you).

If you have such symptoms, well, I have to warn you that the more you fear that you will live life lonely, the more fear that you won’t be loved by women …

the more BETA your mindset and behaviors will be AND THUS the LESS attractive you are as a man.

#2 Why? Because when you are scared of “being alone” and “missing out this potentially only chance you have”,

you will definitely come up excuses why you want to stay with this average 5/6 marks girls, rationalize that she is your “true love/soulmate”, eventually sacrifice yourself and do everything to please her just to keep the peace in this mediocre relationship.

E.g. you tolerate bad behaviors from your gf, you marry a fvcking bitch “to do the right thing”, you stay married with a toxic witch who treats you like shit

#3 Well bro, if you are fed up with average girls and still have ambition to NOT settle for a shit life, then you gotta kill this fear of loneliness, learn to allow yourself to be alone, independent and self-reliant.

The only man women want to fvck and love is the guy who is SO comfortable with himself when he’s single, confident with his independence, and isn’t in a rush to “get into a relationship/married just because he’s 30/35/40”.

In fact, if you know how to handle your aloneness and how to capitalize the opportunities of being a single man, you can have more girls opportunities and freedom than those in a mediocre relationship.

#4 Never chase relationships or any idealized romanticised goals.

Being in a r/p or marriage NEVER MEANS you are happy & free when you’re trapped with a wrong crazy chick who emotionally exhausts you and distracts you from your core purpose of life.

Stay free, stay independent and stay comfortable with yourself (whether you have women around or not).

Congrats brother! You’ve done everything I told you NOT to do and that’s why you have fvcked up your relationship with your target girl!

Whether it’s you didn’t meet & attract multiple girls and convince yourself “I only fall in love with this chick”…

OR you didn’t keep things as casual as LONG as possible like half a year or even a year…

OR you’ve become needy & craving for a relationship after fvcking just a few times…

Congrats, you have officially RUINED this chance!

So how can you get her back? How can you make your SP wanna fvck you again? How can you make your EXs wanna fvck and love you again?

Well, the answer is: You DON’T.

Listen, the reason this bitch turns cold OR breaks up with you is because you have done MULTIPLE BETA things throughout the interactions with her.

The longer the relationship you have with her but you two break up, the higher chance you have fvcked things up MULTIPLE TIMES before the official break up.  

So your image has already changed from the once-an-Alpha enough guy to fvck-he-is-actually-Beta guy.

How do you erase that image?

Easy, you stop hanging out with her, you create a LONG space for that image to dissolve, you focus again on reconnecting with your ALPHA,

and MAYBE one day she’ll indirectly see your Alpha self and be attracted again.

Meaning: In order to get her back, you must FIRST STOP getting her back and focus back on yourself and on other girls.

You can’t convince her to want to fvck you again, her desire to suck you must come from within and NO “I will not do this again” promises can do that.

So when you fvck up big time, cut the loss and LEAVE (for a least a while).

You’ve become complacent and your attractiveness as a man has probably declined a lot since you’ve made decisions for the girl instead of yourself.

It’s time to focus on yourself again, focus on gaming other girls again, and NOT focus on this mess … if you truly want to get her back in an attractive un-Beta way.

Have you wondered why for hundreds of years, women have been such a mysterious unknown to men and even the brightest scientists like Freud or richest successful people in the world like Elon Musk can’t figure out?

Why do you think it’s always okay for women to suddenly change her mind based on her intuition but men must be straightforward and stick to his words forever?

Well, it’s because if women can’t gain control over men on the invisible psychological underground world, they will LOSE ALL THE POWER.

#1 Understand: Most men are physically stronger than women so it’s almost impossible for women to confront/bargain with men physically.

As you might remember what I taught in the 7-day free course, men used to go out hunting animals and women stay at home with other bitches to pick cherries.

So it is evolutionarily required for women to use SUBTLE, PSYCHOLOGICAL weapons to gain power over each other (men or women) in order to have the highest chance of survival/get most resources.

#2 Do you really think men are controlling the world?

Well, on the surface maybe. But most successful beta men are motivated by their women behind the scene, and it’s women who are secretly controlling how the next move is.

The truth is that women have been TRAINED for nearly 2 million years to naturally play psychological games and their weapons are always invisible, secretive and have a layer 神秘面紗 about them.

When they add their sexual power as weapons, most men will just succumb to them and be manipulated without knowing wtf is happening.

#3 The point is: Women need to be “unknowable/hard to get/mysterious” in order to have social power between 2 sexes .

If they behave in a man’s overt 坦蕩蕩 way, they will lose every advantage they have over men and be easily exploited.

The reason why women are obsessed with 宮廷鬥爭 TVs is because that’s what they fvcking do and GOOD AT in real life!

Now that you understand this, will you STILL worship women like pure 乖乖 Goddess OR will you be more REALISTIC about why they behave in a way they do?

Do you feel frustrated that sometimes you think women say sth but actually they mean an entirely different things?

Are you angry that women mostly don’t tell you upfront what they want from you and keep letting you guessing?

Are you tired that you have to use so much energy and effort to carefully observe her behavior to find out the true meaning of her communication?

Well brother… that’s the reality of the difference between men and women.

#1 Men’ communication: Straightforward, efficient, exchange facts & information, focuses on the CONTENT, say what they mean and mean what they say, logically/rationally analyze and solve problems just like what I’m doing for you here.

Women’ communication: It’s more about sharing FEELINGS, it’s like a kids-talk driven by emotions, it’s about getting ATTENTION, so on the surface the words/content are more dumb/confusing/random/pointless.

#2 Why do we have such difference?

It’s because male and female brains are wired differently according to brain scan.

They did 1,000 brain scans -> Greater connectivity between the left and right sides of the brain in women, while the connections in men were mostly confined to individual hemispheres, and connections were typically stronger between the front and back regions.

Meaning: men’s brains apparently wired more for perception and co-ordinated actions i.e. direction, and women’s for social skills/memory, making them better equipped for multitasking.

So communication to men, content > context but to women, context > content.

Men find women’s form of communication illogical, pointless, waste-of-time, evil and hard-to-get! Women find men’s form of communication BORING.  

#3 Now that you understand this: What does it mean when women are hot and cold to you?

Well, her behaviors already have told you.

She is NOT that interested in you anymore – WHETHER it’s because you’re too boring because you wait too long building rapport like a frd OR you’ve become needy & approval-seeking beta male who can’t get her wet.

Women use body languages, subtle facial expressions/look, hand gestures, innuendos, appearance to communicate with her girls, they don’t have to say it out loud to understand what each other mean.

#4 But most men don’t get what women mean by their words, so I recommend you to always observe  women’ behaviors as better indicators of what they actually mean.

So yeah, she is NOT interested in you when her behaviors turn cold … because if women want to fvck you, they will always find excuses to fvck you.

For now, the best thing to do is NOT chasing for more, but to cut your attention, cut that loss, focus on other girls.

You can only win when she pursues you back, otherwise you need her more than she needs you and that means you become her bitch when you stay in such relationship!

This is just the tip of an iceberg of what I teach my MTFU Insider warriors.

If you want to understand more about women and stop being blind to what women are telling you… feel free to email us that you’re interested in the paid community.

Otherwise, check out the 7-day free course.

Bro, I have a Q for you and I want you to answer yourself HONESTLY: 為咗做愛，你可以去到幾盡呢？了

Are you willing to force yourself to become interested in the things girls like such as watching romance novels/movies or gossiping shit?

Are you willing to give up your academic or career route, follow the girl to another University or company, or even give up your dreams to SUPPORT that girl pursue her dream?

Are you willing to RESPECT her “I-am-not-ready-for-a-r/p” yet rationale,  stay friends with her, happily spend hours listening & solving problems for her, hoping that one day she will finally be touched by your care, effort and patience and choose to marry you?

Or are you willing go for a Long Distance Relationship with a girl for a few years because you believe “As long as we try hard, our love can conquer all”, and wait for the day when the day she comes back and fvck/love you again?

＃1 Well, if you answer YES and you are WILLING to sacrifice like that, you are the typical kind-hearted, romantic beta guy who thinks that women’ desire & affection can be EARNED by sacrificing oneself to meet her needs/interests.  

The sad truth is that most guys are really willing to give up everything 去到盡 just to have sex. They will do anything CRAZY including changing himself or his life priorities.

Again, that’s a logic fallacy.

Asking women what they want + complying with what women say they want + compromising yourself to gain women’s approval & acceptance, will NOT actually make her want to fvck you & love you.

#2 So what can you do if you want more sex and love from women?

Well, I’ve taught you many times: Women don’t like men who so easily shapeable.

Women want a masculine man who is independent and free, who has a strong self-belief about who he is, who take action to get what he wants, who isn’t an agreeable YES man listening to her orders.

#3 Saying yes to her, over-compliance to women, accommodating to her needs & sacrificing your own only mean that you will give up anything just to get pussy!

And that is the ultimate shit test you fail because women would rather want a guy who says NO to her because you need to take care of your own self-interest, THAN say YES to her and help her cum 10 times a night.

NEVER let women’s sex or potential sexual encounter control you!

When you choose YOURSELF first instead of choosing her/sex, you will be the ultimate prize every women want to win over.

I know it’s hard, I know it requires a lot of mental fortitude, but such mentality is what separates the few Alphas from the sea of Betas.

Which side are you going to choose?

Bro, you probably know that Alphas are much more sexually desirable to women than Betas, but do you know that the so-called Alphas and Betas are actually terms to describe the kind of MINDSETS & ATTITUDES towards women?

In reality, Alphas may NOT be a society-approved wealthy “success image” you may think.

Alphas can be a Mafia Boss who are now in prison and Betas can be those rich successful handsome guys who don’t understand the truth about women.

So in short, having an Alpha mindset doesn’t NOT mean you are good-virtue successful men in life and being successful good men does NOT mean you are an Alpha to women.

Now that you understand the terms, no matter how unsuccessful or successful you are in life right now, how can we AVOID thinking/behaving like an unattractive Beta to get girls?

Here are 2 big things to avoid:

＃1 DO NOT make yourself “more like”women hoping that by being alike, you can connect with women easily and fvck them.

Most beta guys try to use “I am not like other guys” to try to separate themselves from the “bad guys women are attracted to” and hopefully get women to like him more.

So betas try to convince women to choose because he is more special, more different, more “goodness”, more emotionally sensitive, more caringly listen to women talking, more compassionate ＆loving, more respect to women etc.

However, trying to be more like women is going to make you a better FEMALE FRIEND, NOT an attractive man because SEXUAL POLARITY is what creates sexual attraction between 2 sexes!

#2 DO NOT be affected when people labels you as 大男人／玩家／食家／狗公／厭女症 etc.

Understand, when you start to discard your old Beta-self and install new Alpha mindsets & behaviors, your old self and most other people will start to put labels on you when they see you getting results.

These labels are just psychological ways women use to stand out from competition.

And betas use the same method to try to make himself more likable to women and again hopefully women will appreciate and choose them.

When you encounter these attacks, understand it’s a beta way to show that he is more special than you, and you shouldn’t get so many girls…(although this won’t change the reality no matter how hard they try)

So there you have it.

You now know what the real difference between Alpha & Beta,

You now know you shouldn’t try to make yourself more “girl-like” or “stand on women’s side as a secret attempt to make them like you and fvck you”,

You now know that when ppl start to call you names, you’re most likely on the right track…

If you want to learn more about the psychology of women, visit www.manthefvckup.com/7dayfreecourse to study it.

It’s FREE.

Bro, do you believe that “everyone always have someone in the world” and it is upon FATE for him to meet and fall in love with her?

Or do you believe that you will intuitively know when you meet your SOULMATE and you & this ONE PERFECT GIRL is going to belong to each other no matter what happens?

Well, if you have similar beliefs, I’m sorry to tell you that you are living in a over-romanticized fake world created by romantic novels/Disney cartoons/Hollywood stories/music lyrics/online dating sites promise/religious ideologies that are NOT based on reality.  

#1 This idea of “Mr. Right/ Mrs. Right” implies that there is only ONE person in the world perfectly compatible for you, and you should spend a lifetime in search of this “perfect soulmate” in order to be “happily living everafter”.

Sadly and heartbreakingly, that’s a lie.

There is no “one person” that you can merge with perfectly. No girls will be your perfect woman, and you won’t be girls’ perfect man.

There are only GOOD ones and BAD ones. And there are a fvck ton of “special girls” who can be GOOD to you or BAD add-on to your life.

#2 Do you feel sad, heart-broken or even angry that there will NEVER be a perfect one for you?

That’s okay because that’s a legitimate emotion when you discover that the real world is NOT the same as you were told.

But if you feel stuck and want to cling to the lie of “one soulmate”,

understand this dependency on ONE person is going to fvck up your psychology and ultimately your happiness & life.

Because when you are so DEPENDENT on the person “you’re supposed to be in love with”, you feel sad & meaningless when you don’t meet them…

OR when you think “you’ve met them”, you will SETTLE and STAY in a shitty harmful relationship that isn’t good for you and you fear of losing THE ONE.

#3 The point is: DO NOT idealize or romanticize any kinds of relationships you have with women.

When you mistakenly believe there’s only ONE PERFECT GIRL in the world, you will BLIND YOURSELF and overinvest your life into an IMAGE that is never based on reality.

The truth is: One, there are MANY women that could be compatible with you and can be good for you. (and of course many bad women you should avoid)

Two, so called “good women” can be created by intelligent selection, how you FRAME the initial relationship and how you SHAPE her over time to become even more “compatible to you”.

#4 Of course these are advanced concepts I teach my guys inside our Insider community, but for now just understand…

Never fear that “this ONE girl may go away OR I may lose this perfect girl” because the day you are afraid to lose a girl is the day you ACTUALLY have already lost the girl.

Some deep mindfvck wisdom here, swallow it again if you don’t understand.