If you want to have a fulfilling intimate relationship, there are certain foundational rules that you need to follow in order to make it thrive.
#1 Everything starts from self-acceptance & self-love
Your r/p with the world is a reflection of the r/p with yourself. Your own happiness & fulfullment is always your No.1 priority, NOT your partner’s.
Most conflicts start in a r/p when you feel that your emotional needs are being met, so you need to take time off for your own rejuvenation REGULARLY.
If you don’t do things daily to LOVE YOURSELF (physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually), you’ll ruin your relationship!
#2 Seek first to understand, before you seek to be understood
Most people feel so much need to tell the world what they need, than they can’t stop and listen what others need.
Once you’ve spent time to take care & love yourself, you won’t feel a need for others to meet your needs and thus you have the EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY to see/listen/understand who they are & what they want.
If you show up like that with your girl, she will feel loved.
#3 Have the courage to be vulnerable
Humans are NOT attracted to perfect beings, we are attracted to each other’s flaws and imperfections, that’s how we RELATE & CONNECT with others.
That means sometimes you tell your girl that you are afraid to do certain things, sometimes you be honest and invite her if she wants to listen to the truth,
sometimes you apologize if you fvck up,
sometimes you ask for help when you can’t figure things out,
sometimes you SAY NO to others politely if you don’t want to do stuff…
=> If you love & accept yourself, see first to understand, and then have the emotional courage to be vulnerable,
you will develop healthy strong bonds with not just your girl/partner but also other human beings 🙂