We know that being vulnerable requires emotional courage, because letting ppl come close and see your flawed imperfect self is scary and can hurt you if you choose a wrong person to do so.
How do we protect ourselves while doing that?
#1 First thing to remember: We don’t NEED everyone to see the deepest, realest part of you.
Not everyone DESERVES to see that deep truth, and not everyone is INTERESTED to explore you.
So while we are being real, we give people freedom to go as deep as they want and freedom to stop at certain level.
When you come from a place of total self-acceptance and self-love, we WON”T need others to validate us that“Oh, you really are flawed but I accept you”.
#2 You have to be choosy as who you slowly allow to enter your heart.
From your interactions with them, you need to see if they are a trustworthy, non-judgemental, patient, compassionate, kind-hearted person who has your best interest at their heart.
If they are supportive to your growth with open heart, then these people has earned their right to receive your invitation to go deep.
If they shame you for being/doing certain things, they are NOT safe people to open up.
#3 This applies to every kind of relationship – bf/gf, friendships, or you seek help from therapist or personal coaching.
The purpose of these “vulnerability sessions” is to help you heal from your emotional wounds in the past,
to let go of the toxic shame that controls you, and to reintegrate your disowned selves back to your personality.
So if you need help to open up, if you are scared about certain fears but you don’t know why,
if you have difficulties connecting with women, you are welcome to send an email to support@manthefvck.com to book a coaching session with me,
OR join our community MTFU Insider to learn and grow together as an integrated healthy male so that you become more attractive, powerful and confident human being.
It is safe, loving, compassionate evn where you will receive support in your journey.