It is a very interesting question to ask isn’t it?
We live in a culture where we see in TV/movies/media that men and women can have great, long-lasting friendships…
and in many cases, they eventually fall in love with each other and have a happy perfect relationship forever.
But is this true? Is real life happening the same as we were told? Feel free to comment below and here’s my take on it.
#1 In a man-woman relationship, there are 3 possible scenarios:
The first one is the man holds the dominant frame, he is confident, self-assured, and comfortable with women.
He sets the frame of how the relationship is going to be and often women just want to sleep & stay with him. That’s ideal.
#2 In scenario 2, (which is 90% of today’s dynamics) the man is a submissive beta who secretly tries to be the girl’s bf, while the girl holds the frame.
He will pay for things, he listens to her breakups & emotional dramas, he “protects” her from dating bad guys he doesn’t like etc.
#3 In scenario 3, the relationship is equal and there is no ST between both. But magically, both can date & fvck others, and the other party don’t get jealous.
Is scenario 3 possible?
I think so, as long as the man doesn’t find the girl sexually attractive and he doesn’t want to fvck her at all.
#4 However, many guys mistaken this with a situation when they are ACTUALLY SEXUALLY INTERESTED in the girl.
From my experience & observation,
when a guy is close friend with a girl and she is not fvcking him, it often means that he is secretly in love with her and wants to sleep with her…
when a guy is close friend with a girl and she is not fvcking him, it often means that he is secretly in love with her and wants to sleep with her…
…BUT since Day 1, he was too pussy to express his sexual desire that he pretended to be her gay best friend and WAIT for a better day when she finally see “how good a guy he is” and chooses him.
#5 You may now ask: If a girl doesn’t want to sleep with him, why do they still keep them as friends?
Or why do they say “they don’t want to lose the friendship when that guy finally confess his feelings”?
Well, it’s easy. The girl is enjoying a ton of benefits from the guy: He is taking care of her, he buys her stuff, he does her favors, he gives a ride for her, and most importantly, he gives her attention whenever she wants it.
#6 I also want to believe that men and women can just be BEST FRIENDS just like men-men relationship.
But we have to understand: Men & women naturally have ST with each other. If they are put in a room and no one knows, they are going to fvck some day.
If a guy is very close with a girl but isn’t fvcking her, 99% of the time is because he is a beta guy who feels shameful for his sexual desire to fvck her and put himself in the FZ,
and maybe just 1% of the time he isn’t sexually interested in her but for whatever reason just needs to keep that friendship.
What’s your thoughts? Are you close with certain girls just to stay friends?
Or are you honest enough to admit that you actually want to fvck her but wrongly chose the traditional friendship path?
CM below and let me know!