分類: 溝女

我哋點樣先可以知道自己喺控制到一段感情呢？

點解咁多男人『墮入愛河』之後，會變成一隻任勞任怨嘅走狗呢？

如果你要選擇exclusive一對一嘅男女關係，你可以點樣保持自己嘅吸引力呢？

One of my Insider brothers asked me what does a frame／框架 means and how we can apply that in our dating/relationship life.

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While I’ve answered him in detail inside, let’s briefly discuss why men must always control the 框架 and let women walk into in.

#1 What is 框架? 每當兩個人交流時，某個人嘅框架總會係較強，佔主導，而另一人嘅框架喺會被吞噬然後被消滅。

所謂嘅框架 = 心理上潛意識嘅現實，講緊我哋以『邊個人嘅現實』去運作

所以你控制到框架 = 你擁有上拍位 = 你控制到大家之間對弈嘅『架構／骨架』

= 你個人嘅決定／慾望／信念，就會較容易影響對方

= 對方較容易『聽你話』

簡單講，框架本身並唔係力量，但你控制到兩性之間嘅框架就係你間接攞到力量嘅方法。因為邊個擁有框架 = 我哋以男人 OR 女人嘅現實去運行大家嘅關係。

＃2 What influences our frame? 我哋個人嘅成長經歷，社會灌輸比你嘅concepts，個人心理狀態，我哋受到咩教育等等。

咁所以，你每次同女人對弈時，你一係以自己現實運行，你一係以女人嘅現實運行；而框架喺有流動性，邊個擁有框架喺會隨時間或者當時關係流動。

＃3 點解框架咁重要呢？

因為就算條女被你吸引對你有興趣嘅話，如果佢唔係『進入你嘅框架』，你就會好快成為感情之中嘅被動角色，你就會成為一條『聽聽話話嘅老婆奴走狗』，你哋兩個做乜都會以『女人利益』為依歸。

咁所以如果巴打你感覺好似條女lead緊大家關係，條女特登控制性愛嘅yes／no，條女要求你做咗某樣嘢先會肯同你XYZ (e.g. 出街／食飯／陪你／搞嘢）嘅話，你被佢以任何原因friendzone，你接受大家暫時以無性朋友關係相處嘅話，

你就係處於下巴位，以條女嘅frame運作。

掉番轉，你想測試條女係咪真心對你有慾望嘅話，你就一定要佢進入你嘅框架/現實。

因為好多男士嘅預設值，都係將自己有興趣嘅女人『放喺神枱拜／女神化』，所以佢咁樣做就係間接承認條女擁有主導權，

就算條女『真係同佢一齊咗』，佢都唔能夠喺段關係之中有say，現實到自己想要嘅男女關係。

＃4 This is the exact reason why I said that 表面上拍緊拖／結咗婚好似好幸福嘅男人，唔代表佢哋就係擁有健康理想男女關係嘅Alpha。

=> 因為大部份男人都係以女人嘅frame去運作，而佢哋亦都好無awareness地覺得『女人話事呢樣嘢喺好正常』，所以甘願做牛做馬做一個『唔被尊重嘅好奴隸』。

你可以睇得到，現今有勁多男人都係需要問女朋友／老婆『攞permit』，批准佢哋去見朋友／同frd飲嘢／去玩去social／去報告行蹤。

最可恥嘅喺，呢啲男人覺得『女人肯俾自由自己』去做呢啲嘢，就係佢老婆好體貼，搵到筍盤，但佢哋從來都無質疑過呢件事喺唔正常，亦唔健康！

＃5 點解女人其實暗地裡想你嘅框架強過佢，想你凌駕佢嘅現實？

原因喺：當女人唔能夠從一個masculine／雄性陽性男人之中得到支配性嘅框架，條女 就會失去安全感，佢就迫住捨棄佢feminine／雌性陰性女人嘅特質，自己去WTFU去做男人嘅角色，自己比安全感自己。

意思係：女人喺呢段關係之中唔可以放鬆返一個溫柔體貼聽你話嘅小女人，佢就會迫住除咗喺繁忙嘅工作之中『做女強人』之外， 返到屋企都要『做女強人』：

對你呼呼喝喝，命令你做呢樣做果樣，禁止你做某啲嘢，而一系列方式懲罰你等等。

再聰明再成功再獨立嘅女人，喺感情之中其實都唔想做咁樣嘅角色；所以如果你咁廢唔願意step up去話事去支配呢個框架嘅話，你其實並唔係真正『愛你嘅女人』。

點樣去建立框架？其實由你Day 1 見面開始甚至認識佢之前已經可以開始做。

如果巴打你想學得更加深入嘅話，我喺會透過Insider教導各位內部巴打嘅，你有興趣嘅話，就email我哋support@manthefvckup.com 索取詳情喇。

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Bro, if you have been learning from MTFU’s videos/trainings, you are someone who actively seeks CHANGE in your life because you are NOT satisfied with certain aspects of your life i.e. mostly dating.

However, in this active growth path, have you heard people (family, guy friends or women) around you telling to “just be yourself” and you’ll attract the girls who like the real you?  

On the surface, JBY is a very attractive idea, because it SOUNDS like you’re just being real and you have no problems that needs to solve.

However, the truth is that JBY is a VERY DANGEROUS idea that can fuck up your life. Why?

Because it implies the idea that “you just need to be patient, WAIT, and eventually you will meet sb who loves you.”

It implies that you DON’T have to actively ACTION to get what you want, it implies women/dating are sth that automatically FALL ONTO your lap, it implies you have ZERO responsibility on your sex/love life because God has already a romantic plan for you.

So doing NOTHING about it and you’ll get your dream girl. How Disney & romantic is that?

Some ppl may argue that if you are not JBY, you are being a faker, you try hard to be sb you are not, you are wearing masks. These all sound legit right?

Well, think about these questions bro:

#1 WHO has the ultimate authority to decide who you are? Who decides whether it is a “real you” or a “fake you”? Who has the right to decide whether your personal change is genuine or not?

#2 When you’re changing your appearance/style/behaviors/circles of friends/ attitudes towards women/mindset about dating, sex and relationships, do you think there’s a conflict of interests where you might make others feel uncomfortable?

Do you think your change will doubt other ppl’s personal belief system about certain things? If yes, what do you think is the easiest way to handle that for most people? To self-reflect deeply & challenge oneself, OR to doubt the changer’s intention/sincerity and persuade him to STAY THE SAME?

#3 Transformation by default is change.

It’s about doing something you normally don’t do, thinking in a way you never did, learning to be comfortable with sth you normally aren’t, and expanding your personality/capabilities you normally don’t have.

So what does JBY really mean? Who determines who you are and who you slowly become? Who judges if this version of you is real or the previous version of you is real?

OR you are ALWAYS being FAKE since you’re born because right now you are NOT thinking/behaving/acting like a baby? Should you just go back and be like that?

I know I asked you a lot of Qs today, but if you get logic behind the true meaning of JBY, you will now understand what those who tell you to JBY is actually doing to your FUTURE.

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As you all know, HK is the most expensive city to live in the world, so it is not uncommon for many young men to share rents with others or live with parents.

One Q I get asked from more established brothers is that whether they should share rent with their gfs i.e. cohab with their gfs?

What’s your instinct about that? Do you think it’s a GOOD DEAL to do so to consolidate your relationship?

The underlying reason for many men to cohabit with gfs is NOT just sharing rent, but the REAL reason is that they think by living together, he can has more SEX with gfs EVERY FUCKING NIGHT and his sex life will be happy.

Well, if you really think you will get a DAILY supply of sex, you totally don’t understand the sexual dynamics b/w men and women. Here’s why:

Cohabiting is like a preview of marriage, there’s not much difference between the two. So when you cohabit with gf, you are giving her EXTREME comfort and certainty.

Comfort = familairity = predictability

You have almost ZERO privacy and freedom. She knows everything about your schedule/what you are doing/who you are seeing. And you are actually legally committed to finishing the rent EVEN if the relationship turns bad.

When you have so comfort in a relationship, guess what you don’t have?

You don’t have elements that make her WONDER/THINK/MISS about you, you don’t have enough SPACE for her to IMAGINE what you’re doing, you don’t have enough DOUBTS in her mind that whether you’re seeing other girls.

Attraction requires passion, passion requires TENSION, tension requires the nervous feeling of the unknown – she not sure what you’re doing/ she not sure if other girls are competing for your attention/she not sure if you can have sex in other places/ she not sure if she has SECURED you yet!

So what are you actually doing when you cohabitate with any girls?

You’re destroying EVERY elements that makes you a sexually desirable man, you are destroying her emotional needs to worry that there are other women competing you outside, you’re destroying the SPACE for her to miss you.

Healthy relationship requires PHYSICAL SPACE and OPTIONS.

So if you don’t plan to get married, (which is a good choice), there is NO REASON for you to cohabitate with any chicks.

If you’re young and still building your dream, it’s much better to live on your own or share places with OTHERS who aren’t your sexual options, have the freedom to do whatever you want, and enjoy dating different women.  

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Over the past 2+ years, I have read almost 1000+ case studies from bros at all levels, all ages from 13-50+, from all over the world and i have noticed certain PATTERNS in their dating/relationship problems.

When you answer so many Qs, you will start to notice what works and what doesn’t work when dealing with women.

So I will list a bunch of observations I have made during this period when I am teaching brothers.

#1 Begging girls to do sth e.g. to date, to have sex, to like you, to love you, to give you a chance WILL NEVER work.

You must have the upper hand power at all times in a relationship. Whenever you BEG a woman to stay with you/get back with you, you are FUCKED!

Why? Because appealing to girls’ sympathy is NOT a seduction tool!

#2 Every time when you feel the URGE to save a r/p, you actually have already LOST the girl.

Why? Because it implies you’re caring too much, you are putting HER in front of yourself, you are NOT in control of the r/p. So this relationship is DONE, you’ve fucked up.

#3 Most of what your father or grandfather tell you how to get girls is WRONG. In 2019/2020/2021, buying flowers on V’s day or random day is the most UGLY thing a man can do. Stop being so ugly and 變態.

Also, stop believing what TV dramas or romantic movies say about male-female relationships including those starting from the 60s. The project of making men beta have started almost 80 years ago and those messages are all harming you.  

#4 Don’t “surprise” your girl by suddenly appearing outside her office, that’s creepy. Stop telling her I love you unless she has told you MANY TIMES in advance.

Stop calling girls on phone to “Nth much, I just want to hear your voice”. These are all SUPER BETA behaviors EVEN when you’re her bf.

#5 NEVER apologize for your actions, unless in extreme cases. An Alpha is unapologetic about himself, about his attitude, beliefs and actions.

People pleasers are betas. Be proud of yourself, be proud of your sex drive, be proud of everything you do including your failures.

#6 So called “game” is about creating an impression that she’s chasing you, even though you’re proactively leading her to do so secretly.

So “game” isn’t about doing nothing and let girls come to you, that doesn’t work UNLESS you are super high value like a famous hot celebrity. But the general rule is to do as little/obvious as possible to game her.

#7 Never give 100% of the things women want e.g. your time/your emotions/ your material stuff/ SEX!

Remember that only scarce things have value, and women only want what they can’t have. So keep them in the wanting/wishing/fantasizing mode.

#8 Self-respect is one of the biggest thing men lack nowadays. Stop being a pathetic worm cry-baby who tells me that “I really want her, i can’t live without her, I must want her because I love her.”

Shut the fuck up and listen: You can never FORCE a woman to be with you. No woman wants such a loser like you right now. If a woman wants to leave/break up, let her go and CUT all your attention.

Men can NEVER convince women to stay if her heart is there. So look at the mirror at your fucking face, see how you fucked up, learn from your mistakes and move the F on like a man!

#9 In all stages of relationship, you must remain as a KING. You are the prize, you know your value and it is HER LUCK that you choose her to date/fvck tonight.

She is the lucky girl who gets your attention, you deserve hot women and you always do things that pleases you first. NEVER put her in front of you.

So here you go bro. These are the common basic themes I get from so many MISTAKES guys are making with women right now.

Choose women who want to be with you, who will change herself for you, and who will overcome challenges to stay with you.

Only those who are putting in the effort and proves her loyalty deserves your most attention. Others are only casual playmates you fvck around once for a while.

We teach a lot of details in our Insider family. If you wanna learn more on how to do so, email us support@manthefvckup.com and let us know that you want to join.

Bro, what do you think is the most effective weapon to attract girls? Is it money, status, looks, muscles, fun emotions, great connections, successful career or how good your sex game is?

Another Q: When you don’t like a girl’s certain behaviors, do you argue with her? Persuade her to change? Or care about her feelings, fulfill her needs and then hope then she will listen to what you want?

Well, the answer to all these Qs is that:

One of the most powerful tools to attract/keep girls is actually using the girl’s own imagination.

#1 What I mean is that: Most beta guys love to TELL everything about themselves to girls, wanting her to know ALL of his stories/wounds/strengths and flaws, and think that women will appreciate his TRUTH about his life and “will love him for who he is”.

Sorry bro, apart from your mum, no women on the planet want to know 100% of you. Why?

It’s because women want to figure out a man by themselves, by their own imagination, by her intuition and by her feelings about you.

#2 When you tell her everything about you, you are taking away her ENJOYMENT of “discovering a man” and she will dump you and find other men who are more like a mysterious puzzle to solve.

Women care about the CONTEXT (上文下理／背景) of the communication, they care about HOW you talk about things, they care about what is NOT being said, they care about the underlying meaning and the subcommunication.

So women don’t really pay attention to the CONTENT of what you say, they don’t really care about “the literal meaning” because they’re feeling the deeper parts of the communication.

#3 You may now ask: But isn’t being honest is an attractive trait to women? Why do they always ask me to TALK TO THEM?

Rmb: Vulnerability is only attractive ONLY IF you use it rarely, like <5% of the time.

95% of the time you must be strong-minded, hard-to-kill, firm with your boundaries, confident, self-loving and not like a cute teddy bear.

If you start out as an Alpha like that, and only “become vulnerable” and share feelings AFTER she has earned it (e.g. had sex, obey to you). Otherwise, telling women everything about yourself is UNATTRACTIVE and you’re doomed.

#4 So back to our main point: If you now know that women’s imagination is your best weapon to get her, how would you approach dating?

E.g. Don’t “tell” her how Alpha you are, but BEHAVE in certain manners/ attitudes so that she concludes herself that you are the guy she wants to fvck.

E.g. Don’t “tell” her you have many girls options, but BEHAVE in such a way that you’re always busy going out for coffees, having interesting pics with girls without face in IG, or acting so casual in dates or after sex.

E.g. Don’t argue with her about certain points that you disagree with, JUST withdraw your attention as a punishment so that she KNOWS you don’t like it.

#5 So yes, you don’t need magnificent words to persuade women about your attractiveness.

All you need is to communicate your message via your BEHAVIORS, and let her imagination runs wild and conclude why she must want you by herself.

We teach a lot of details in our Insider family.

If you wanna learn more on how to do so, email us support@manthefvckup.com and let us know that you want to join.

#1 Don’t just read/study, you must APPLY

Knowledge without application is USELESS to get girls. The whole process of real learning is to study, apply, learn from mistakes, keep adjusting.

Unless you are using these weapons on women, you are NOT even in the game.

#2 Find a type of “game” that fits your lifestyle

We all have different schedules, preferences, and strengths/weakness. So you should design your “meeting girls” habit according to what’s best for you.

If you look good on pics/paper, do online. If you are rich, have social status in certain environments, mingle in bars or clubs. If you have a lot of time, travel a lot, like talking to strangers, you can do cold approaches wherever you go.

Your goal is to be able to talk to at least 1 potential girl a day in whatever means. Only then you can start to game girls.

#3 If you must cold approach, make it as casual as possible like a side thing you do when you’re going through your day.

Personally, I don’t like going out in malls/streets JUST to approach a ton of girls and get as much as # to run game later.

BUT, if you happen to be in a gym, buying food in CItySuper, reading books in a bookstore, doing work in coffee shop, drinking with friends at a bar, exercising in a park, waiting a line in whatever places (because you’re doing stuff you’re already planned and you happen to SEE a cute girl),

then it’s perfectly good to spend 30 seconds to approach her and see if she is open to talk to.  

Again, if you’re talking to only 1 new girl a day, you will have almost 100 new experiences in 3 months. Such simple daily exercise will help you gain so much experience than most guys in 3 years.

#4 Seriously, get a mentor.

Yes, I am biased to say this. But honestly, it’s super HARD for most guys to become great with women just by his own.

Even if he has many gfs in the past, he may still be operating with a Beta mindset and doesn’t know why he FAILED.

We all need mentors to help us see our blind spots. Whatever new skills I want to learn nowadays, I always pay to learn as intimately/quickly as possible so that I can save time and many mistakes.

So whether you choose me or other guys who talk about game, if you cherish your own time, pay them so that they can 10x your speed to success.

If you recognize the value of mentorship and you like what you’ve been learning alone here in MTFU, I welcome you to consider joining our MTFU Insider brotherhood, where we provide ALL the trainings, coaching and accountability to help you succeed in dating/sex/relationship life.

Email us support@manthefvckup.com if you are interested.

#5 Aim lower at your beginner phase.

Let’s be honest: You can’t just fvck 9-10/10 dream hot girls if you’re inexperienced. At the beginning, you aren’t aware of what mistakes you’re making so you need TIME & EXPERIENCE before you can win the boss game.

So you need to build SMALL WINS by gaming girls who are just average-looking (but not ugly) ones who are maybe 5-6/10, then slowly level up as you gain experience.

Of course don’t fuck ugly fat chicks who are a 0. But aim for those you feel neutral but acceptable-enough to have a ONS. Gain small successes so that you can have huge successes later on.

So these are the top 5 suggestions for all newbie guys who are studying sexual dynamics and maybe with less than 10 lay counts.

Do you still have any challenges you’re facing you don’t know how to face? Like and comment below and let me know so I can create better content for you in future.

Qs: What are the REAL REASONS 許志安 cheat? Is 黃心穎 a total slut? What will happen to Sammi? How about the poor little boy 馬國明？

Well brother, these are ALL irrelevant Qs you shouldn’t ask yourself. As you will see, almost 99% of articles/videos will be based on ENTERTAINMENT that adds zero value to your life.

It’s about making you feel emotional, adding drama to the mess so that there are more views. Afterall, that’s what news/media do.

Therefore, in this video breakdown, we will NOT focus on the gossip. We will NOT stand on the moral high ground to judge what’s right or wrong.

My intention of using this material is to ADD VALUE TO YOUR LIFE as a man. I want you to take this as 學術研究 to see the TRUTH about sexual dynamics between men and women, to understand the difference between sexual desire and love, and OBSERVE your initial reaction towards this incident.

Because YOUR NATURAL REACTION already reflects whether you’re BETA or ALPHA lens to see the world.

I recommend you to watch my other video <你係Alpha定Beta？留意呢10大特質！> as reference.

Now, we will breakdonw into a few sections in this video:
#1 What you can learn from 許志安 as an extreme BETA
#2 How you should choose women – NOT Sammi, NOT 黃心穎
#3 The only thing 馬國明 should do
#4 Other BETAs you should avoid becoming – taxi driver, the staff in Apple, those who attack 許志安 in front of girlfriends.

#1 What you can learn from 許志安 as an extreme BETA

1) He got oneitis 真命天女症.

Beta believes in romantic ideals. He tries to find his one soulmate. And then he justifies his clinginess by saying he “loves her so much”.

-> Therefore you can see 許志安 always come back to Sammi after breakups in the past 30 years. Because when he was ~20 years old, he already thought Sammi was the one. That’s a classic idealizing love behavior.

2) Beta always WANTS to be hero, he wants to save a girl from her problems, he wants to treat her nice and takes responsibility of HER emotions/problems.

-> That’s why my guess is another reason why 許志安 stays with a woman who is KNOWN for her crazy ups and downs personality (like Lady Gaga, Britney Spears, Madonna). He genuinely wants to fix Sammi’s emotional drama. He fails, but since he believes “committing” is what good man does, he continues living in such shitty relationship.

Now, let’s look deeper in the 記者會.

3) He keeps apologizing to everyone, to Sammi, to his fans etc. “犯這個錯誤起了色心，我覺得現在應該承擔後果。”

This implies he is SHAMEFUL towards his natural sexual desire for hot woman. Not only that but he is also apologizing being a MAN who likes to fuck.

“我覺得自己好錯、好討厭、好丟臉、好噁心、好陌生。”

He is ugly NOT because he cheats, every Alpha leader is history had multiple women at the same time until 100 years ago. He is UGLY because he is so weak/powerless that he needs to apologise to his REAL DESIRE as a MAN and he doesn’t have the BALLS to step up to OWN AND CLAIM his manhood.

4) “因為我自己做了一件不被原諒的事。” What does this imply? This is saying in the past 30 years, Sammi ALWAYS had the dominant frame in the relationship.

But since he is a nice guy, he TOLERATES that shit and keeps going back to Sammi until Sammi is good enough but choose him. At home, Sammi is the boss so 許志安 is always being emasculated. After years of marriage like that, there’s no way BETA won’t need a break and cheat for some younger, hotter girls.

5) “我最錯的地方是失去我自己。” “我這一刻是沒了靈魂的，我是一個壞掉的人。”

“我會暫停我所有工作，直到找到一個真正的自己，重新去檢視自己”

He emphasises so much on being BAD person, he loses his “real self” as being a good guy, being a morally upright dude in society.

That’s what BETA do. Beta always use the “I am a good devoted bf/ husband/ citizen” in society as a CARD to attract girls. But in reality, they are just pussies who keeps hiding away from the REAL ASPECTS of themselves – the ones that are deemed “bad” by society/religion/culture. They keep living in SHAME and that’s why betas have fucked up psychology.  

Now let’s briefly mention the other parties in this incident.

#1 As I have mentioned, Sammi is known for her ups and downs emotional personality. But betas love to act like Prince to save girls’ from her shit, to take responsibility of OTHERS shit, that’s why 許志安’s mistake from day 1 is to use “i will save girls” strategy to get girls, attracted sb he shouldn’t have touched, AND kept fixing a problem he can never fix.

I am not saying Sammi is a bad person, but I am saying when it comes to choosing what kind of women you want to put next to your side, you must be RUTHLESS like you’re having a billion dollar business deal.

#2 How about 黃心穎? Before I analyze about her, I want you to notice how SOCIETY is going to slut shame her as chicken, especially women.

Why? Because that’s a psychological battle played between female species. Even a woman herself loves sex and sucks dick, she IS going to slut shame other women who are competitors. This is to ensure that the best gene goes to her instead of the other girl.

As regards choosing women, 許志安 probably isn’t the first guy she wants to hook up with. She probably has been fvcking other guys behind 馬國明, who is another extreme beta.

However, even if her reputation is tarnished, many betas will still want to be her bf or even marry her. So the best strategy to handle these girls if you meet one? Just fvck her but never be serious.

#3 Now, what should 馬國明 do? Well, he is a famous nice good guy who always seem to be ignorant of what’s happening and willing to get his balls cut.

If he’s NOT ruthlessly dumping a cheater IMMEDIATELY, you will know why 馬國明 deserves to be cheated again and again.

Finally, I want you to see the BIGGER PICTURE about the whole incident.

#1 The real reason why the taxi driver reports to Apple is probably NOT JUST about money, even though he may get a few thousands or more for this juicy story.

The real reason he does that is probably because: He is JEALOUS that 許志安 is going to fuck a hot girl he can never FUCK.

This taxi driver probably has a tiger wife at home, nagging him all day and all he can do is to cheat in mainland.

But seeing a celebrity can get better pussies? He is pissed, so he is going to DESTROY 許志安 secretly to feel better about himself.

No matter how he justifies that – feeling unjust for Sammi, hating pretty girls like 黃心穎 who never will fuck him, want to help 馬國明 know the truth – becoming a justice warrior and ATTACKING powerful beta is the only way they can do to pull down a higher status beta.

2) How about the staff in Apple Daily?

As I said, the media only cares about profiting your EYEBALLS. They are not to help Sammi or 馬國明, they are not to destroy 許志安 黃心穎, they will just find creative ways every day to get your ATTENTION and earn profit from it.  

If you want to know what the news is about, just read Ryan Holiday’s <Trust me, I am not lying>.

3) The last point of today is that: I want you to OBSERVE your initial reaction towards this incident.

Did you leave a comment to 網絡公審 許志安? Did you HATE women like 黃心穎 because they are so sexual BUT they are not sexual towards you?

Did you feel sympathy for Sammi immediately EVEN THOUGH you have no idea who is suffering in that 30-year relationship? Did you laugh about 馬國明 because he is such a naive dork who always get taken advantage of?

Most importantly, when you talk about this with other women (gf/wife) in public, are you trying to shame 許志安 like most people are doing now?

If you do, you need to be careful. This is a strong signal that you too are operating in BETA MODE, trying to stand on the side of women and trying to portray a “I am good morally upright guy” image to attract girls.

This video is NOT for you to 食花生，this video is helping you to SEE whether you actually is just another less powerful, less famous, less affluent 許志安 – who is doing similar things with a similar beta mindset in regards to sex and relationships.

Cheating in relationships is NEVER the real problem, the real problem is always CHEATING YOURSELF and not facing what you truly want in life, and then settle in mediocre relationships, UNTIL that doesn’t work and EXPLODE one day that harms everyone.

What would you do if you were ruthlessly honest about your sexual desire?

What would you do if you knew that sexual desire and love are 2 different biological things that most people are confused?

What if you never have to apologize for being a man who gets what he wants in life without worrying about ppl’s opinions?

What if you STOP buying into the lies of Hollywood/DIsney romantic love and see the truth about male-female sexual dynamics?

I share much more details on how to achieve that life in MTFU Insider, if you’re interested, send an email to support@manthefvckup.com and let us know.

I hope today’s video has enough valuable nutrition to help you grow. LIKE this video and subscribe to MTFU so that you won’t miss out the upcoming videos.

If you like this kind of breakdown, leave a comment below and let me know.

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就今天的記者會的目的是真的好想親口、 衷心向大家說聲對不起。

我是要為我的家人、Sammi的家人、朋友和疼愛我的人，致上萬二分歉意，因為我自己做了一件不被原諒的事。

而這個錯，（讓我）深深去反思自己，所以今天我在這裡，是想承擔我的責任。

我那晚的確喝了很多酒，但喝酒絕對不是做這種事情的藉口。

我非常後悔，我知道逃不了，我很難面對自己，接受不到自己。

看到報導之後，我覺得自己好錯、好討厭、好丟臉、好噁心、好陌生。

我有深刻地反思自己為什麼會去犯這個錯誤起了色心，我覺得現在應該承擔後果。

我會分兩個部分：第一個部分，我會暫停我所有工作，直到找到一個真正的自己，重新去檢視自己

第二個部分是在我心靈上面，我覺得我自己不知所云，因為我的行為，我的錯誤，令身邊所有愛我的人，承受這樣的壓力和痛苦。

我希望接下來的日子裡，所有被我弄痛傷害的人，都可以好好。這個報導讓我反思的一點，我最錯的地方是失去我自己。

我最後向所有愛我的人說一句對不起，對不起讓你們難堪。我做錯了，也對不起Sammi。

我不知道該如何走自己的路，我這一刻，是沒了靈魂的，我是一個壞掉的人。

期望大家可以給我時間找回我自己，我向大家說聲對不起。

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Bro, not sure if you’ve experienced this, but have you wondered why women can “get over you or any breakups” after a few years of relationship and so quickly get another new guy?

Are you curious why a loving stable relationship seems to mean nothing to women when you break up AND she seems to have moved on so quickly?   

Or do you find it hard to understand why some girls often return to their asshole abusive BF, but you know YOU are a much better man?

#1 Well, this strange phenomenon is actually necessary for women to survive. It’s a mechanism designed by evolution.

If you had studied our 7-day free course, you understand how harsh realities were before agriculture:

Humans living 200,000 -2M years ago were hunters gatherers. Men always left their tribes to find food, fight wars, search for resources;

Women almost stayed in the tribe with others to take care of children and chit chat.

#2 Men almost always died unexpectedly because of external factors such as animal attacks, doing dangerous work or fighting in wars.

And when they lose, superior conquerors will kill the weaker men and preserved women for sex.

In such circumstances, it is important for women to evolve to better deal with psychological trauma, to have greater ability to accept emotional loss, to dissociate herself from past pain and move on quicker, in order to increase their odds of survival in face of the new situation.

#3 If you get this, you know know why women can be quickly forget about your 5-year loving relationship and start a new one with another guy in 2 weeks.

OR they start to empathize the “enemy” who destroyed her former bf/husband.

It’s because they have better abilities to cut off emotional ties from former lovers and focus on “getting what she can best get from a man” RIGHT NOW.

Don’t hate women for being so ruthless and 唯我主義. Don’t hate them for being incongruent with their words.

It’s just how evolution helps them deal with the anxiety, guilt and stresses for almost 2 million of years.

Bro, you probably know that men should always lead women in any sexual relationships, but are there any situations where you should NOT lead, and let women be proactive?

The answer is YES and it is related to how you inspire girls to become your girlfriend.

#1 The first situation where let girls LEAD is when you want an exclusive/獨家佔有 relationship with a girl.  

Most men fail to convert sexual partners into GFs because they want a bf/gf relationship MORE than the girls want it.

Thus, everytime they 表白/confess love/propose marriage, they have already LOST even if the girl says YES because at this critical moment, this man sets up a girl-approve-boy loser frame.

Why this is 100% fail situation? Because if she says yes, you are falling for her frame and it’s HER who decides to be more intimate than you, she is still the BOSS.

If she says no, you become a beta who needs to continue to “prove your worth”, do more stupid romantic shit even when she rejects you, hoping that one day she will “let you become her bf/finance/husband”.

#2 Understand: On the surface you’re leading. But the truth is you are actually pleading/begging/hoping that she can APPROVE you.

So if you truly want an exclusive bf/gf relationship, you MUST let her PERSUADE you into it, let her ASK for it so that you have the relationship upper power.

If you two are having sex multiple times, if you two are hanging out doing activities 1-2 times a week,

I guarantee you that after 1-2 months, girls who really like you AND ARE looking for a relationship WILL ask you “where we are going.”

So by NOT being the one who initiates the “relationship talk”, by NOT agreeing to be together immediately, by taking TIME and letting her continue to PROVE HER WORTH to gain this exclusive access to you,

you are acting like “being pursued” guy who has the power to say yes or no.

Don’t fvck this sequence one otherwise you will become another beta bitch she doesn’t respect!

#3 Another mistake is that you should NEVER say “I love you” before she does.

Girls must be the FIRST one to say this. Because just like the first point, when she “feels that it’s the right timing”, she will WANT to say it for you.

Do NOT do it first because if she is NOT emotionally ready, saying “i love you” is useless and is ONLY going to destroy your Alpha attraction she wants.

These are the little ways on how to get her to keep pursuing you for more, keep being attracted to you, and keep “loving you” as a devoted GF.

If you want to learn more on other advanced topics or need more personal help from me, send us an email to support@manthefvckup.com to ask about our Insider Community or book a coaching call with me.

Otherwise, use these tools and secure a woman who truly wants and loves you.