分類: 溝女

Yo! 我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，歡迎嚟到新一集嘅ManTheFvckUp，

 

協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

＃1 琴日我哋就講咗，

 

拜金女好多時會利用『committed relationship』嘅藉口，去嘗試撳停你嘅sexual advance，

 

利用將來可能發生嘅『性愛』，去迫你落一種特定嘅關係。

 

但係有時候，一啲更加直接嘅拜金女，

 

就會一開頭明示暗示你，叫你畀錢佢洗或者幫佢交學費等等。

 

＃2 佢哋可能講嘅嘢就係類似『哎呀，好大壓力呀，個個月都要交卡數，搞到我真係好唔開心囉。』／

 

『唉，如果我唔使成日煩住唔夠錢洗，咁我哋就可以出多啲街啦。』／

 

『死啦！如果呢個禮拜五之前交唔到學費，咁就大鑊啦，點算？』／

 

『我哋唔可以出咁多街啦，我唔夠時間返工做嘢呀，冇錢真係好煩囉。』

 

 

＃3 點解咁多男人聽到呢啲說話，都有種衝動去幫個女仔交學費／津貼佢生活費呢？

 

原因就係，

 

好多男人都有『白馬王子狂想症』，總會幻想自己成為英雄救美嘅嗰一個騎士，

 

所以好多nice guy／好男人都會想嘗試幫女人解決曬佢嘅問題／困難／困境，希望能夠令到女人開心。

 

所以每當女人提及呢啲『充滿危機』嘅問題，

 

好多好男人都會突然感到事情嘅『緊急性』，之後就做咗一連串嘅非理智行為。

 

＃4 要拆解呢個騙局，你就可以透過『慚愧+贊賞+你對佢有高期望』嘅combo去反擊。

 

譬如你可以話：

 

『哎呀，咁慘呀你。我都明嘅，唔能夠自己獨立，好似其他女人咁樣有能力照顧自己有時都幾頭痛。

 

但係唔使驚呀你，我對你有信心嘅，我知道你有能力解決嘅，

 

所以你做到嘅時候一定要話我知，我一定會為你感到自豪。;)』

 

 

又或者你可以講：『Oh no，成日問人借錢都幾煩㗎。

 

我細個嘅時候呢，阿媽成日教我要自力更新，唔好問人借錢或者資助你，

 

唔係嘅話人哋就會唔再尊重你。

 

所以其實你睇我眼中，我都覺得你都係一個獨立聰明嘅女人，

 

所以你ok嘅，我相信你能夠走出呢個困局。;) 』

 

 

＃5 以上呢招之所以有效，原因就係拜金女其實係知道自己做人唔正直，

 

佢可能都希望自己可以做一個財政獨立嘅女人，所以佢暫時唔能夠成為嗰一個又叻又有能力嘅現代女性佢都會有少少慘愧。

 

 

所以當你開頭透露你明白佢感受嘅shame，之後再透過讚賞，顯示你expect佢有能力處理自己問題，

 

咁樣你就能夠漂亮地逃過佢嘅陷阱，又能夠啟發佢成為一個更好嘅人，

 

what a fvcking genius idea！:D

 

＃6 Anyway，聽完呢幾集你都應該明白拜金女嘗試操控你嘅招式，並且明白點樣去處理呢啲陷阱；

 

但係你可能會問，『Manson，我大把錢啦，使乜驚呢d拜金女呀？』／

 

『Manson，我幾百億身家，佢呃得我幾千萬，我咪當做善事比乞兒囉，有咩問題！？』／

 

『Manson，我都係當包二奶／做下sugar daddy啫，你情我願，各取所需，唔需要擔心喎？』

 

聽落好似好有邏輯呀，咁深奧嘅問題，

 

就係返我哋聽日最後一集嘅拜金女Part 4一齊探討！

 

希望今集幫到你！

Yo! 我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，歡迎嚟到新一集嘅ManTheFvckUp，

 

協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

＃1 琴日我哋就講咗，

 

拜金女喺會偵測一啲充滿依賴性依附性嘅beta male providers，跟住利用自己嘅『樣靚身材正』去不斷利誘你去花錢喺佢身上，

 

咁佢哋究竟通常會有啲乜嘢招數去嘗試操控你呢？

 

＃2 其中最常見嘅一招，

 

就係拜金女會嘗試去迫你同佢發展一段『committed relationship』，嘗試去frame你成為佢嘅資源提供者／provider。

 

＃3 好多時候，呢啲拜金女表面上會同你好好傾，好似好有feel好夾咁樣；

 

但係每當男人想同佢進一步有親密嘅sexual connection嘅時候，拜金女就會馬上reject佢，

 

同佢講一啲充滿邏輯性，類似『Sorry啊，我淨係會同一啲會commit嘅男人發生關係架咋。』嘅說話。

 

 

遇上呢啲情況嘅話，你可以點樣做呢？

 

＃4 第一種方法就係當咩事都冇發生，表現到好似你都同意佢，

 

之後忽略成個topic，再講下其他topic講多五至十分鐘，之後再次嘗試身體升溫。

 

因為如果你嘗試『行前兩步退後一步』哋進行escalation，

 

如果佢係鍾意你嘅話，佢都會感覺越來越high，好可能有突然之間決定同你搞嘢。

 

所以呢個方法可能需要用三五七次先work，

 

但係如果女人唔係真係reject你，佢冇馬上離開嘅話，

 

其實佢都係暗地裡鼓勵你堅持啲，五至十分鐘之後再嘗試過去撻著佢。

 

＃5 第二種方法就係，如果佢真係好堅持地同你用言語講佢自己有咩『rules』，

 

咁最好嘅方法，就係去將佢所講嘅嘢比喻成做生意傾deals。

 

譬如你可以話：

 

『嘩，原來你一定要有commitment先可以有sex架？

 

聽落好似成單交易咁囉…我畀你呢樣嘢，你就畀番呢樣嘢我，成件事實在太唔浪漫喇。

 

對於我嚟講，我覺得intimacy喺一種feel多個喺傾deals囉。』

 

你講完之後，就可以開始顯示自己對佢冇興趣，並且暗示佢個人太過冷漠太過功利。

 

＃6 你明唔明點樣運用以上嘅技巧去break條女嘅frame呢？

 

你想唔想知道拜金女仲有咩方式去叫你做佢嘅資源提供者？

 

想嘅話就畀個like呢段片，

 

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跟住留意聽日分析拜金女嘅第三集！

 

希望今集幫到你！

 

Yo! 我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，歡迎嚟到新一集嘅ManTheFvckUp，

 

協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

＃1 各位巴打，如果你依家係住喺一個物質豐裕+消費主義嘅一線城市之中，咁喺你溝女嘅路途上面點都會遇上一啲拜金女；

 

小弟有唔少嘅private coaching clients，好多時都係一啲成功有錢有成就嘅achievers，有時佢哋都會有呢啲遇上拜金女嘅煩惱。

 

所以呢幾日我哋會一齊探討下點樣處理呢啲拜金女，

 

令到將來成功有錢有成就嘅你唔再糊塗地被佢哋剝削，保障番自己嘅財產權益同男人尊嚴。

 

＃2 首先你要明白嘅係，『嫁個有錢人』呢個concept已經係充斥著好多大城市起碼兩三代嘅時間。

 

再加上過去所有一線城市嘅迅速發展，『嫁個有錢人』呢個marketing term係已經深入唔少人嘅心；

 

唔少人已經畀呢種idea洗腦，男人就不斷希望透過搵大錢搵到女人嘅愛，女人就希望透過『嫁個有錢人』能夠令自己真正生活開心愉快滿足。

 

＃3 所以某程度上，最搵到錢嘅商業機遇，可能並唔係炒股買樓買六合彩爭遺產等等；

 

可能最大嘅商業機遇，就係處理所有結婚之後離婚嘅business，

 

因為短時間之內，好可能女人就能夠分你一半身家，無啦啦資產多左幾百幾千萬甚至幾十億。

 

＃4 當然我唔係講緊所有女人都係拜金女喇！

 

就算係喺物質豐裕嘅大城市，你總會搵到一啲性格好好，本質純良，有良心嘅好女人。

 

但係，你就要必須小心一啲濫用自己『樣靚身材正』嘅專業拜金女，

 

因為佢哋絕對係社會上面嘅predators，佢哋係會毫不留情地搶奪一啲弱雞嘅獵物；

 

而佢哋絕對係有高超嘅技巧去虛耗你嘅情感精神同財富，所以千祈唔好睇小佢哋！

 

 

＃5 呢啲拜金女之所以能夠鍛鍊一身高超嘅社交技巧，同埋操控男人嘅技術，

 

好可能係因為以往佢哋心理情感上嘅經歷而導致變成今日嘅『魔女』。

 

拜金女好可能細個嘅時候，大學中學甚至小學階段，

 

已經有啲有錢男仔嘗試透過錢同利益去取悅佢哋，去買佢哋嘅歡心。

 

＃6 好快地，呢啲拜金女就學識點樣去偵測一啲充滿neediness／依附性嘅男人，

 

佢哋更加學識點樣利用男人嘅neediness／缺乏自信，去製造一啲emotional dependence，

 

去製造一啲會依戀依附佢嘅男人軍團，不斷『娘娘收兵』。

 

咁所以一開頭就洗錢係女人身上嘅男人，好快就會被拜金女當作係beta male，

 

好多時拜金女都會睇下自己可以『從呢個弱雞男人身上撳到幾多錢』。

 

由於拜金女都係女人，佢哋都係享受男人嘅challenge。

 

所以每當佢哋揸乾完一個beta male provider嘅時候，佢哋就會『趙完鬆』，

 

之後就會轉移下一個目標，如此類推。

 

＃7 Anyway，你想唔想知道拜金女點樣去出招攻擊你呢？

 

你想唔想知道拜金女點樣潛意識地去利誘你去花錢喺佢身上呢？

 

你想唔想學識點樣防止自己再次被呢啲邪惡嘅拜金女，去玩弄自己嘅情感呢？

 

想嘅話就畀個like呢段片，

 

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跟住留意聽日分析拜金女嘅第二集！

 

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協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

Do you still has a hope to get back your ex?

 

Do you still have a secret hope to meet that girl you wish you had during teens?

 

Are you still making decision today based on your past experiences?

 

Maybe you’re working hard on your law/dental/med school, so that in your 10-year secondary school anniversary, you can finally IMPRESS that girl you loved 10 years ago?

 

Maybe you’re going to gym everyday so that you have the “perfect body’ , hoping that someday that girl you liked will be impressed by your change?

 

We all have those girls from our past that still haunt us.

 

They may be your ex girlfriends, they maybe girls that you have unfinished business with…

 

e.g. girls that disappeared suddenly, OR circumstances prevented things from going further

 

The reason the girls that we have unfinished business with that haunt us the most is because we only have the memories of the intense attraction, chemistry, and connection.

 

These feeling never got a chance to mature so they are still burning strong…

 

BUT truth: Even though certain girls may hold certain places in your heart,

 

holding onto the past

 

= prevent you from meeting new girls who may have similar qualities, may ruin the opportunities again

 

4 Steps Solution:

 

#1 Accept All

 

#2 Be grateful of the experiences

 

#3 Forgive yourself and her

 

#4 Be hopeful that you’ll meet sb better

 

希望今集幫到你！

 

Yo! 我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，歡迎嚟到新一集嘅ManTheFvckUp，

 

協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

首先就係，

 

你唔係仲未follow我哋MTFU嘅IG（www.instagram.com/manuptoday）吖嘛？

 

你快啲搵manuptoday並且follow啦，

 

因為我哋將會好快就推出每日全新價值性嘅溝女小貼士，你千祈唔好錯過！

 

各位巴打，

 

我同你都係活喺一個因果關係／cause and effect 嘅世界，好多嘢都係因為A事件，之後導致B事件發生。

 

譬如話如果天氣凍，你就會著多件衫；

 

如果行過地盤打緊樁好嘈，你就會掩住自己耳仔；

 

如果你見到心儀嘅靚女，你嘅心就會卜卜咁跳 etc.  

 

隨時間過去，我哋就會忽略咗原來好多嘢都係有因果關係，

 

因為我哋唔會每一刻都會花時間去諗邊一樣喺『因』，邊一樣喺『果』；

 

所以好多時當某一個『因』出現咗嘅時候，

 

我哋就會毫無疑問地根據慣性嘅『果』去做潛意識嘅行為，作出自動化嘅決定。

 

其實呢種進化論嘅反應喺有好處，因為佢能夠幫我哋簡化生活嘅程序，

 

協助我哋根據過往嘅行為，唔需要花太多『精神／思考』去諗就能夠作出相應合適嘅行為舉動。

 

有一本書我非常建議大家去睇嘅，

 

就係由Dr. Robert Cialdini所寫嘅《Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion》。

 

佢裡面就講咗一個真實嘅實驗，嘗試研究睇下講唔同嘅說話能夠點樣影響人嘅行為。

 

個實驗就需要參加者去問一啲用緊影印機嘅陌生人，可唔可以借畀佢用先。

 

第一組嘅參加者就要問對方：『唔好意思呀，你介唔介意借部影印機畀我用先呀？』

 

第二組嘅參加者就要問對方：『唔好意思呀，你介唔介意借部影印機畀我用先呀？因為我需要影幾張嘢。』

 

實驗結果就係：

 

當參加者提供一個原因點解佢要用部影印機，對方願意借部影印機畀佢用先嘅機會率將會大大提升！

 

更加重要嘅就係：

 

無論你喺背後提供一個有冇邏輯嘅原因，你都能夠大大增加對方接受你要求嘅機會率！

 

點解我哋人類會出現呢啲咁得意嘅行為舉動呢？

 

點解當你能夠加一句少少嘅『because XYZ／因為XYZ』，其他人就會比較願意去服從你嘅指引呢？

 

其中一個好可能嘅原因，就係因為我哋細個嘅時候，我哋阿爸阿媽總會要求我哋服從某一種指令；

 

而每當我哋問點解嘅時候，佢哋都會畀一啲似是非是嘅原因比我哋。

 

最後由於我哋細個無知，我哋都會將大部分嘅所謂『原因』當作事實，

 

慢慢地我哋就會習慣性地相信任何提供原因嘅陳述句。

 

咁呢樣嘢可以點樣運用喺溝女身上呢？

 

非常非常簡單，以下提供幾句例子畀你用：

 

『不如我哋去呢間餐廳囉，因為最近好多人食過都話裏面嘅海膽壽司好好食。』

 

『喂，我哋好快上一上我屋企先，因為我要放低個袋。』

 

『我哋去飲杯咖啡呀，因為你知唔知原來有少少咖啡因，喺能夠令到雙方enjoy多啲個conversation架？』

 

『我哋去呢間bar呀，因為佢裏面整嘅cocktails係好多女仔飲過都話係好正嘅。』

 

以上嘅所有句子，

 

就係因為一個小小嘅『because／因為』呢個字，就能夠大大增加被接納嘅機會。

 

咁容易嘅技術去增加對方嘅服從性，醒目嘅你由今日開始唔係唔用吖嘛？

 

希望今集幫到你！

 

Yo! 我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，歡迎嚟到新一集嘅ManTheFvckUp，

 

協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

男女傾計最致命的錯誤 Mistake #7 :

 

無喺背後準備一系列嘅技巧並且不斷練習。

 

Conversation is a SKILL,

 

getting good with women is a SKILL,

 

being a great speaker is a SKILL,

 

being great at anything is a SKILL!

 

Do you still want the PAIN of not knowing what to do?

 

Do you still want the FEELING of indecisiveness because you are too afraid to make a mistake?

 

Do you want that FEAR of talking to women because you think what you say isn’t “good enough”to impress her?

 

Secret #1: 機會喺留畀有準備嘅人，

 

make it your LIFETIME mission to improve your conversation skills, just like always be improving 1% daily with a worthy skill.

 

Do you talk every day?

 

Do you speak every day?

 

So do you think it’s a worthy skill to practice?

 

Your choice.

 

Secret #2: Drop all your STANDARDS of a good conversation with women.

 

 

Your standards of “what to say to girls” is too high.

 

From now on, London bridge is falling down, ZERO standards.

 

 

=> Say whatever you want to say,

 

say whatever that AMUSES you,

 

makes you feel good,

 

say whatever you find FUN to say.

 

希望今集幫到你！

 

Yo! 我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，歡迎嚟到新一集嘅ManTheFvckUp，

 

協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

男女傾計最致命的錯誤 Mistake #6:

 

嘗試扮搞笑，嘗試扮funny，而忘記咗自己享受去玩嘅過程／having fun。

 

 

Understand: Most girls don’t get guys humor, that logical intellectual humour doesn’t mean shit to them.

 

Comedians are funny, but do you think they are sex symbol?

 

Fvck no!

 

Trying to be funny -> make you OVERTHINK things, funny lines put pressure on you to always be stuck in your head.

 

-> When you think it’s not funny, you think the sentence is NOT good enough to say, and you think you don’t know what to say.

 

 

TRUTH: Women prefer FUN over funny.

 

=> Because FUNNY makes her laugh at the jokes, FUN gets her laughing because she likes you.

 

=> Jokes make her laugh at the THING,

 

but when you two do sth that’s FUN (roleplay, teasing her), she laughs because she is having a good time with you!

 

 

FUN is easier to transition to sexual.

 

-> It’s hard to get from being scarastic to sexual

 

-> VS you tease her, being playful, being silly,

 

it’s much easier to transition to SEXUAL stuff and lead to passionate romantic connection.

 

希望今集幫到你！

Yo! 我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，歡迎嚟到新一集嘅ManTheFvckUp，

 

協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

男女傾計最致命的錯誤 Mistake #5:

 

太過親戚恭敬mode／太過謹慎小心『得體』／Being Too Safe！

 

Because you always want to find sth to talk about, you are attached to certain safe topics and you are AFRAID to change subject.

 

 

E.g. find that you both loved fitness, then spend 1 fvcking hour talking about health/fitness/food/nutrition/workout, THINKING the conversation well fantastic.

 

E.g. find that you both are passionate about dogs/cats/pets , then kept talking about pets stuff

 

 

TRUTH: You only display that you both are fitness enthusiasts /pet lovers, BUT nothing else in common.

 

At the end, yes you share mutual interest.

 

BUT you also display that OUTSIDE that mutual interest, you two CAN’T just chill and enjoy each other’s company, talking about nothing!

 

=> Girls want to be with a guy who they can have FUN with, being not SERIOUS all the time,

 

being SILLY around, talking about nth and just chilling in the moment, a guy she can lays on the couch with laughing and having fun

 

=> Sunday morning, laying on your chest, just FEELING, not always have to talk about serious stuff

 

There are 1 million guys out there who also love fitness/dogs/whatever passion you have,

 

but there are only a few guys whom she can imagine herself having fun with,

 

the two of you just enjoying each other company exploring different activities, adventures and LIFE.

 

Takeaway: Do NOT attach to certain topics.

 

As always, your goal of conversations is to have fun, help others have fun (experiencing wide range of emotions),

 

and then screen & qualify to see if she is the kind of person for you to bring her into your life.

 

希望今集幫到你！

 

Yo! 我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，歡迎嚟到新一集嘅ManTheFvckUp，

 

協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

7種男女傾計最致命嘅錯誤

 

Mistake #4: 進入面試／Interview Mode！

 

Conversations should NOT feel like a job interview,

 

that’s why dinner dates as the first 1-2-1 date SUCKS,

 

it puts so much pressure on both of you to keep the conversation going.

 

Then you start asking Qs

 

e.g. what do you do for a living?

 

What do you do for fun?

 

Where do you grow up?

 

What kind of music do you like?

 

It’s not the questions themselves that KILL you, it’s the rapid firing of questions after questions after questions.

 

The stream of fact-based answers DESTROY any chemistry you have.

 

Conversations should have a FUN vibe back and forth.

 

Creating Chemsitry?

 

-> Imagine there’s a spotlight shining over the conversation, chemistry happens when the spotlight happens BOTH of you.

 

-> So when you keep ask Qs, you put the spotlight on her answering Qs, and that’s uncomfortable.

e.g. just like speaking in front of a camera

 

Don’t put her in that spotlight,

 

keep it focused on BOTH of you for as long as possible.

 

Tip: Questions are great for coaching/helping/inspiring, but Questions never lead to chemistry.

 

Statements DO!

 

Action Step: Change from asking Qs to making statements

 

E.g. What she does for a living?

 

->So, I bet you are a nurse

 

=> Why do you think I am a nurse?

 

=> etc.

 

Now you two are vibing and makes things back and forth,

 

more emotional, more fun, more interesting, more chemistry.

 

希望今集幫到你！

 

Yo! 我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，歡迎嚟到新一集嘅ManTheFvckUp，

 

協助你成為一個更有力量，更有吸引力，更有影響力嘅現代雄性男人，創造你想要嘅夢想帝國。

 

7種男女傾計最致命嘅錯誤

 

Mistake #3: 太落力去扮晒cool／扮晒型／扮晒冷酷

 

Sometimes you have this little voice in your head that says you may not deserve her,

 

and you’re thinking how you can STAND OUT from other guys in the environment,

 

and you try to offer sth SPECIAL that others can’t.  

 

=> This makes your brain paralyzed,  

 

Brain freeze, you search for things to SAY that make you seem COOL, seem FUNNY

 

=> This makes you so damn NERVOUS, can’t even compose a normal sentence, mind go blank;

 

OR you try too hard to be funny

 

Trying to be cool = try hard

 

TRUTH: You DON”T always have to be cool

 

If you can manage to show her in the first few mins of talking to her, that you are at least the SAME social level as her, you  don’t need to pretend to be COOL,

 

you can just focus on  having a FUN, NATURAL conversation that makes YOU feel good, which will makes her FEEL good.

 

Imagine: If you don’t need to wear this social mask of being COOL,

 

how easy, effortless, relaxed will conversations be?

 

Concentrate on staying in the MOMENT, and HAVE FUN with small talk.

 

Rmb: Women don’t need you to be COOL all the time,

 

as long as you are having FUN yourself, they want to hang around you because of the good positive emotions.

 

You are just being yourself having FUN for yourself.

 

That’s sexy!

 

希望今集幫到你！